Thursday, May 21, 2009

Spanking, sex, and endorphins

Spanking, sex, and endorphins

Endorphins play an important role when dealing with spanking at the harder levels.  Let’s take a quick look at what endorphins are and then we will explore the role they play in spanking.  Endorphins are neurotransmitters found in the brain that have pain relieving properties similar to morphine.  Endorphins interact with opiate receptor neurons in the brain and essentially block pain signals sent to the brain by the nervous system.  While research on the topic is still relatively new, studies are showing that endorphins are very beneficial to our bodies.  Recent studies suggest that, among other things, endorphins enhance the immune system, relieve pain, reduce stress, as well counter some of the effects of the aging process. 

Most of us are most familiar with the production of endorphins as a result of heavy exercise, or as the result of physical pain.  The body produces endorphins at high levels in more situations than just these.  Sexual activity produces endorphins and research shows that over the course of a sexual encounter endorphin levels can increase as much as 200%.  It has been suggested that the euphoric feelings that one experiences after sex are the result of high levels of endorphins running through the body.  There are also foods that are tied with the production of endorphins.  Eating hot chili peppers or chocolate can result in the release of endorphins.  This helps to explain why some people eat chocolate during times of stress and find it to be a comfort food.  While released in smaller amounts than during sex, consuming chocolate can produce enough endorphins to create a euphoric feeling.

Endorphins play an important role in spanking and may further explain why those that are not really into spanking find pleasure in having their bottom smacked during sex.  As illustrated above, the production of endorphins can lead to a euphoric feeling, and a little pain mixed in with sex can go a long way to increase the pleasure.  According to Producers of spanking videos, endorphins play a very important role in what we do.  For the models that we spank that are really into it, being sexually turned on can carry them through the harder scenes we do.  Models that are not into it do not have the benefits of sexual excitement in a scene and it takes endorphins to allow them to carry on past their limits. We are often asked how we are able to find so many young and beautiful models that will take such a hard spanking.  I think one of the main reasons is that we are good at what we do and can guide just about anyone through a very hard scene.  We have learned to use the concept of endorphins to our advantage.  We always start each day slowly and work a model into the harder scenes.  Even a moderate spanking, applied to someone’s bottom who does not like it, will produce endorphins.  When it comes time to do a harder scene, the nervous system is already slightly prepared for what is to come.  In addition, we have learned to recognize when the body steps things up and begins producing endorphins at very high levels.  It takes practice and knowing the person you are spanking, but it is possible to visibly see the signs that let you know that endorphins are kicking in to high gear.  You will often see scenes in which the model struggles hard for the first half, and even though the spanking increases in intensity, she fights the whole process less towards the end.  This is a result of her body finding a way to cope with the pain by producing endorphins.  By recognizing when this happens, we can take a model much farther than she really expected to be able to go.  Endorphins are also responsible for the fact that immediately after an intense spanking, people report that their bottoms do not hurt as much as they expected.  The surprise comes a couple of hours later when they realize that they are very sore, much more so than they expected.  Once the body reduces its level of endorphin production, the true soreness from the spanking is fully realized.

There is still a lot of research to be done in this area, but there is enough of it out there currently to support what I have said.  As a spanker, or a spankee, you can learn to use endorphins to your advantage.  There are many people that have the desire to receive a hard spanking, but find that they can not tolerate anything more than a light spanking.  This is about more than just pain tolerance; it is about being properly guided through a scene that increases in intensity.  Endorphins are the reason that people can take a harder spanking after a warm-up.  I feel confident that I can take anyone into spanking, regardless of their pain tolerance, to a level of intensity that they had no concept that they could achieve.  I have had seen models s that at the beginning, could barely make it through a handspanking, that are now able to take a wooden paddle on their bare ass.  Nothing happened to increase their pain tolerance, we simply got to know them better and as a result were better able to read their body language to see when the harder spanking could begin.  I think many spanking producers short themselves in a big way with model selection.  They hire anyone cute and then just spank the hell out of them.  The ones that survive are hired again, the ones that don’t are sent packing.  They do not take the time to learn how to guide someone to the level of intensity their audience wants to see.  They simply end up with models who can naturally deal with a lot of pain.  If they would learn more about endorphins and use it to their advantage, they would quickly find the size of their model pool increasing by 500%. 

I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest something that I have never seen mentioned before.  First let’s look at some of the current findings in the area of endorphin research.  It has been found that endorphins:

- enhance the immune system
- relieve pain
- reduce stress
- counter some of the effects of the aging process
- increase the release of sexual hormones
- cause a euphoric feeling

Now if there was a pill that could do all of the above things, I am pretty sure that doctors would prescribe it to just about everyone.  You do not need a pill, you already have the prescription (your ass) and you just need to have it filled (a spanking).  If you want to better fight off illness, better deal with pain, reduce the stress of your daily life, look and feel younger, increase your sexual drive, and find a natural high without drugs or alcohol, then spanking is the cure.

Russian scientists at the Novosibirsk Institute of Medicine are claiming a beating on the naked buttocks with a cane is the perfect way to cure everything from depression to alcoholism.
The researchers say caning releases endorphins, the body’s natural ‘happy chemicals’, and that leads to feelings of euphoria, a reduction of appetite, the release of sex hormones and an enhancement of the immune response, and they have a similar effect on pain as drugs such as morphine and codeine, but do not lead to addiction or dependence.

Biologist Dr Sergei Speransky who led the research claims corporal punishment, similar to that doled out regularly in British schools in the last century, helps people overcome addiction and depression. He confirms he is not a sadist even though he recommends caning and says the treatment works. A standard treatment course entails 30 sessions with 60 of the best, delivered on the buttocks by a person of average build.

Dr Marina Chuhrova who also took part in preparing the report said she had 10 patients she caned regularly and though initially “they didn’t like it, when they started to feel the benefits they kept asking for more.”

The Russian team says they are now charging for the caning sessions and are getting over U.S.$ 100 per patient for a standard treatment.

  I propose that a spanking a day will keep the doctor away.  Hmmm, maybe I need to open the first spanking therapy clinic wink

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Sunday, May 10, 2009

Ladies, What Orgasms are all about? Answer in one word -Cunnilingus!

id you know that in a recent study, only 60% of the women said they enjoy vaginal sex  and only 25% achieve orgasm from traditional penetration? (Masters and Johnson: Human Sexual Response )

Let’s face it, of course your man want to help you reach climax more often, but every time he don’t satisfy you completely, it becomes personal. You feel like less of woman, lose sleep over your performance and maybe you even worry that he may leave you.

In short, it feels bad!

However, after talking to hundreds of women and having studied the science of sex myself, I discovered something very fascinating…

Did you know that… 

• While only 25% of women regularly achieve orgasm from traditional vaginal penetration, 81% of women reach orgasm from cunnilingus?

• and 88% of married women say cunnilingus is their preferred and most enjoyable sexual act? (Masters and Johnson)

Is that an  eye-opening or what?

In the end, these results definitely explain why so many couples have such non fulfilling sex lives. They’re missing out on a major aspect of sex!

Now, just imagine how much more sex you’ll enjoy together when you teach him how to give  you more frequent orgasms. Not to mention, You’ll probably want to return the favor back to him, too. :D

And ultimately, quality oral sex will help strengthen your relationship and help you get closer to your partner than ever before.

However the problem is that…

Most Men Think That ‘Any Old’
Lick Will Do …WRONG!

This couldn’t be further from the truth! For example:

Do you know the 8 components of a woman’s genitals and how to specifically stimulate each of them?

Do you know what order and how long you should lick and caress each one?
And by using these combination, do you know how to give a woman two different types of orgasms at the same time? (And yes, it is possible!)

Let’s face it, while it just seems like it’s all about “licking” there’s actually much more to it. You need to lick the right places, in the right order, for the right amount of time!

And with over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, you better make sure you know exactly what you’re doing before you poke your tongue down there, otherwise it could be really painful, spoil the mood or even turn her off cunnilingus altogether.

In short, most men have NO IDEA how to please their wives or girlfriends with oral sex. Why? Because no one out there is teaching this stuff properly! So sad!…

But, you just keep reading this blog …. click on cunnilingus on the right and Learn more on this subject by a professional trainer on this subject — Sir. Sexy Cruiser — WHY? Because ladies come to Las Vegas to have sessions with him for only $5oo, and that cheap if a woman has never orgasm before… and want one so bad….

Ladies, Keep reading this blog and make your life better with a better sex life and lifestyle.

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Thursday, January 15, 2009

A Recipe for a good spanking

A recipe for Chick Flambe

Start with a young to middle aged bird and place over your knee Lift the skirt of the bird Season with twelve vigorous strokes of the rule to each of the panties covered cheeks Remove the panties (what kind of bird wears panties) Apply additional seasoning as before, repeat as necessary until the bottom side is pleasantly pink Apply an ice cube to each cheek, then spank each cheek vigorously until the liquid disappears Remove your belt and apply at length until the bird is sufficiently tender Stir with the flat side of a firm wooden spoon for 60 strokes or more.

Your Chick Flambe should be done when hot to the touch

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Friday, December 26, 2008

Ladies,Why virtually every man on Earth has had the desire to spank his woman?


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Virtually every man on Earth has had the desire to spank his woman. Whether it’s a kinky fetish or simply a spice you want to add to the dish that is your sex life, spanking definitely has its perks.

Today’s tip will help men everywhere learn how, when and at what tempo they should be spanking their women.

Before you rev up your hand…

In a perfect world, if you wanted to spank your woman, you would just do so and care nothing for the consequences, because, in a perfect world, there would be none. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works in the real world.

Before you begin spanking her, you have to first find out if she would actually enjoy the feeling of an open hand coming into slightly harsh contact with her buttocks. If she has ever displayed a liking for dominant sex or enjoys running her nails down your back, then spanking her is surely a go.

If you have absolutely no clue what she wants in bed, then you have to talk to her about it. I know, I know, that sounds incredibly “exciting,” but believe me, if you take a moment to ask her if she’s ever fantasized about being dominated, her answers may surprise you.

What to spank with…

While you have the option of spanking an ass with a paddle, a whip, or an abundance of other props, I strongly recommend that you start off with your hand. Besides the hand is best as it allows you to get the full feel of the ass-spanking connection.

Onto the spanking…

Now before you start warming up your hand in preparation, remember that there are correct and incorrect ways to spank woman. You can’t just start smacking away at her ass like a maniac.

No, you need to learn the appropriate way to spank her. That way, it will be enjoyable for her and you will get a thrill out of her reaction. Of course, you have the option of spanking your woman before, during or after sex. But to start, you should spank her exclusively (that means only spanking, not spanking only her).

Now, it’s time to bend her over your knee

How to spank her…

Don’t wind up like a maniac just yet; there is an actual etiquette to spanking women:

Warm up
Obviously, I don’t mean that you should jog around the block; rather, rub your hands together to ensure that they’re warm when they connect with her skin.

Choose the hand
Although right-handed people tend to use their right hands, you can opt to use whichever hand you’re more comfortable with — or even both, just not at the same time.

One cheek at a time
Just to reiterate; never smack both cheeks at the same time; not only will you not be able to do your spanking adequately, you may end up hurting her, in a bad way.

Position yourself
Place yourself in a position where you’re able to maneuver freely and accurately. The last thing you want to do is smack her on her back or thigh.

Keep your hand tight
By keeping your hand solid and slightly cupping your hand, you ensure a nice sound, a slight sting and a whole lot of pleasure.

Smack it up
Remember that you’re aiming for the meatiest part of her ass, which is the middle. After you actually slap her cheek, rub the area with your hand for a moment before you attempt to have another go at it.

Let your hand guide you

Here are some general guidelines you might want to follow amid your upcoming spankathon .

Make sure you have ample room
If you want to spank that bottom right, you need to ensure that you have enough room to raise your arm freely and spank it accordingly. Sit or stand in a position where your arm can swing freely. This leaves less room for unintended mis-smacks .

Keep the ass in plain view
Her ass should be bare and fully visible for the act. She can be in the doggy position (tight-assed) or lying down flat (loose assed) — so long as her ass is easily accessible to your hand. Even when she’s riding you, you can still spank her sufficiently.

Maintain control
Don’t ask things like “Did that hurt?” or “Can I do it harder?” What you should do is spank her and judge what to do by her reaction. If she screams out in agony or says anything remotely close to “are you trying to kill me?” you should refrain from spanking her any harder.

If she doesn’t yell out, or better yet if she moans with delight, then I strongly recommend that you spank her slightly harder and don’t forget that you shouldn’t spank her in quick procession. Take your time, this is an art, after all.

When all is said and done…

Of course, chances are that her ass will be red and sensitive when it’s all over, but keep in mind that there is pleasure in certain kinds of pain, and this is one of those pains where this applies.

Until next time, enjoy the sound of your hand connecting to her bottom. Becuase I know they love it and will love you more for doing it, too….RIGHT LADIES…

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Thursday, August 14, 2008

Ladies, Let find out from the people on the street –Do you enjoy spanks?

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Do you enjoy spanking?
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Sunday, April 20, 2008

The Rules of BDSM:Safe, Sane,
and Consensual

The Rules of BDSM: Safe, Sane,
 and Consensual

By: SEXY CRUISER

In the Lifestyle of BDSM, there is one thing that remains consistant: The Rule of Three (Safe, Sane, and Consensual). It is the guideline by which all things are done, from meeting, to negotiation, to play and quite often to a relationship itself. When things are Safe, Sane, and Consensual, the margin for error is drastically reduced, and all participants feel more at ease.

As an example, I can use alcohol and drug use to show how this rule can affect us. If a person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs, (which, incidentally, alcohol IS A DRUG), would you ever consider playing/sceneing with that person? Think about it: Alcohol is a depressant. If a scene got intense and that person under the influence was either unable or unwilling to respond to a need, how safe or sane is that?

Drugs are also a bad idea, for the same reason. If a person were high, stoned or cranked, I know that I am sure as hell you wouldn’t want to scene with him! That’s downright crazy! Sceneing with a person under the influence is often thought of as a cry for help amongst BDSM-knowledgeable suicide preventions workers!

Slaves and subs, when they scene with a Dom/me, are literally putting their lives in the Dominant’s hands. A trustworthy, caring Dominant can take the slave/sub into the farthest reaches of the galaxy of subspace, and quite often s/he is delighted to do so. A Dom/me that is doped-up or drunk can literally kill or severely injure the playmate. One wrong move during ass-play or bondage scenes, and it’s all over.

On the other side of that equation, a slave/sub must also be clear headed going into things, so that, if necessary, the slave can use a given safeword at any time. Drunk or toked subs/slaves seem to have excessive difficulty with this, and so are more apt to get themselves hurt or killed.

Simply put, if you or your potential partner has indulged in some drinks or a few drugs, (yes, pot counts!), do NOT scene! It’s a deadly combination, something that no one will call Safe, Sane, or Consensual. It’s NOT Safe, it’s NOT Sane, and under the influence, often people tend to forget what happened the night/day before, so even if drunken/stoned consent is given, it’s still NOT Consensual!

Keep this in mind next time you go to play. Make sure alcohol is not an option in your negotiations and play, and please keep it Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

Keep it fun. Keep it REAL.

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Friday, February 1, 2008

FEBRUARY IS ROMANTIC
SPANKING MONTH!

Romantic Spanking Month

In case you haven’t heard, Romantic Spanking Month is February. To celebrate this momentous occasion, we here at  SEXY_CRUISER CAN HELP, LADIES! has post a special calendar as a public service. It contains a different romantic spanking suggestion for each day of February.


Click on the calendar to see the full size version.


May your month be a SPANKING GOOD TIME!

 

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Sunday, January 27, 2008

Ladies, Why should you do
the NEGOTIATION,
before doing anything!

Introduction to Negotiations


By: Sir Sexy Cruiser

 

I have received E-mails requesting that I discuss many different subjects.
Out of all the E-mails that I have received, I believe this is one of the most important and crucial subject so far.

The E-mail that really made me want to address this immediately was from a bottom/sub that will remain nameless for now. The letter stated more or less that this particular girl and her Top/Dom were not clear on exactly how negotiations worked, what to talk about, how in depth to go, etc.

Therefore, they’re just winging it!
 They’re figuring it out as they go! What’s wrong with this picture? What part of this is safe or sane?

The first thing to address here is the reason for negotiations.

Why do many of us perform negotiations in the first place? My kink is not your kink, right?
Perhaps My wild turn-on involving tying up a girl and throwing her in a closet might send my perspective bottom into a nightmarish flashback of when her abusive stepfather locked her in closets when she was a little girl.
How do I know that tying her up and throwing her in a closet would be a real mood killer.

How about, oh I don’t know . . . Negotiations?

The next thing to address is just plain old fashioned communication.
Its how all relationships work?
Communication is the figurative KY in our relationships that keeps the friction down.

That was how it was for our grandparents and their grandparents, and that is how it has always been. How else am I supposed to know what my perspective bottom’s long time fantasy is to be the subject of a fantasy rape? I’m supposed to read her mind and instantly know this while I’m trying to talk her into playing fire and ice, right?

Here’s the second reason for negotiations.

How about “trust”? Is that a good reason? We as Tops and Doms want our bottoms and subs to trust us enough to do all sorts of things to them that might otherwise jeopardize their safety and well being. Heck, that’s part of the kick of the whole thing, isn’t it? It’s a really cool feeling when someone trusts us enough to put their lives in our hands!

How can they trust us, if we don’t know how to keep from breaking that trust?
Who wants to scene on egg shells, afraid that the next move might be what sets off a total 180?
And, she switch roles and now the male top is being trash by the once bottoms/sub turns into a Top/Dom … with  not performing negotiations in the first place?

Here’s how negotiations work in a nutshell, sit down and talk about turn-ons and turn-offs before engaging in play. That’s about it.

If you want to know how I perform negotiations, here it is. I meet the perspective bottom/sub/slave. We spend at least a day getting to know each other, a bit.
We spend at least another day going over a negotiation form. The perspective bottom/sub/slave fills it out, I read it with the perspective bottom/sub/slave several times. I spend the next 2 days studying the negotiation form and periodically asking specifics. After that I will play with her and not before then. Maybe I go too in-depth, perhaps.

However, I can say this, my slave trusts me entirely with her life. I would rather err on the side of caution.
In BDSM, if there is no negotiation, ladies and you are the top/Dom… and with no trust for the bottom/sub …you maybe charged with Date Rape… So ladies Please negotiation.

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Sunday, February 20, 2005

Entry for February 19, 2005 — Best Sexual Positions


Entry for February 19, 2005
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Best Sexual Positions

Man on top.

Everybody starts out in this so-called “missionary position”: man on top, woman on the bottom, face-to-face. It’s where we were when most of us lost our virginity. This position gets a lot of bad press these days because it’s “old-fashioned,” or perhaps because it’s “patriarchal.” Actually, there’s nothing wrong with this position; it affords excellent support for thrusting, close intimate contact between lovers, and is an ideal position for conception. The woman may lie with her legs spread wide and to the sides, or may draw them up to her chest. In either position, the man cannot reach her vulva for manual stimulation although in the first he can reach her breasts.

A variation on this position is for the woman to sit in a chair or on the edge of a low bed, thus allowing the man to kneel on the floor for thrusting. For heavyset men it can reduce the weight he places upon his partner, and allows for both partners to reach their genitals. Although technically regarded as “superior” to traditional missionary position by many sex therapists, most people who actually have sex feel this position is less “intimate.”
A third variant of man-on-top is one in which the woman lies on her stomach and the man penetrates her from behind. For many women, this position can stimulate the G-spot; however, it can also cause the penis to strike the cervix, causing pain. While this position has many of the disadvantages of any position where two people are not face-to-face, it is still popular with some couples.

Woman on top.(my Personal favorite)

This position is highly recommended in the few “how to lose your virginity” manuals still lying around, mostly because it allows the woman to fully control the speed at which sex occurs. There are several different positions classified as “woman on top.” The most common is that she straddles his hips, taking his penis inside her, and then lies atop him, either with her legs bent or stretched out. She may also choose to just sit straight up atop him, sliding up and down; this position is both visually stimulating for the man and allows him to play with her breasts freely.
Occasionally in adult movies one may see this position done with the woman facing away from her partner. While the sensations giving to both partners in this position are very different and may be very stimulating, most people feel the loss of intimacy involved is not worth the difference.

Sitting.(this is the best)

This position is for sex in slow motion; the angles are all wrong for any sort of vigorous thrusting. The man sits in a chair or cross-legged on the floor while the woman sits astride him, usually face-to-face although it can work equally well if she faces away. This position is good for caressing and intimacy. Some people recommend rocking chairs for this position.

Standing.

Reminiscent of “quickies” and illicit sex in alleyways, standing is actually one of the more complicated positions to achieve, at least face-to-face. Insertion can be difficult; standing, the vagina is not tilted forward for easy access. Since women are on average shorter than their male partners this position may require a short footstool or convenient staircase step to make it possible. At any rate, someone may want a friendly wall to hold both of them up during this act.
Another variant of standing is similar to the third one in man- on-top; the woman faces the wall or bookcase or whatever she’s using to hold herself up and the man penetrates her vagina from behind. This position is considerably easier than face-to-face standing, and many people like it for it’s “naughty” or “illicit” connotations.

Side-by-side

These positions all mirror the “on top” positions, except that the partners now lie on their sides on the bed. They can be achieved face-to-face, at an angle or from behind. The one difficulty with this position face-to-face is that someone has to rest their leg atop their partners; after only a few minutes this sometimes causes cramping and pain. Done when the woman faces away from the man, it can be slow, relaxing; one can almost fall asleep comfortably like this. In this position, it is known as “spooning.” (The term applies mostly to the act of sleeping in that position, not necessarily the act of sex.)

Rear-entry(Doggie Sytle)

Although several positions already described can also be covered under this term, most people use this term to describe the position in which the woman kneels on her hands and knees while the man enters her from behind. Some people strongly dislike this position because of the lack of intimacy and the suggestion of male “dominance”; others like it for the freedom and strength that can be employed during the act of intercourse. The term “doggy style” has been employed to describe this position in the past, although this descriptive is inaccurate at best.

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