Sunday, June 21, 2009

BDSM 101: Basic Slave Positions and Hand Signals

Basic Slave Positions and Hand Signals

Author Unknown/Domina (this means that I got the positions from various sources (usually emailed to me), modified them, discarded some, added a couple that I like and designed hand signals for some of them.  several people asked me to post a set of basic positions, and I’d like to thank everyone who sent me positions and pictures.   

BASIC SERVICE POSITIONS: Required for all slaves

Some positions may be inappropriate for your style of domination, or you might wish to use a variation or more positions than are listed here. We all do it differently. Certainly, I don’t use all of these, but they did look interesting.  (Click on thumbnails for a larger picture)

 

INSPECTIONS

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Auction

 AUCTION– Similar to Inspect, this position is used for auctioning off slaves. The slave is naked, legs spread a shoulder width apart, arms out straight at an angle, hands away from the body, palms up. Eyes lowered.  Chin up.  This position allows unobstructed view of a slave’s attributes.

  • Voice Command–None
  • Hand Signal–None
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Inspect

 INSPECT– This position the basic for inspecting the slave.  The slave, usually naked,  stands at attention, legs spread a shoulder width apart, hands clasped behind the head, right over left, back slightly arched. The arch accentuates the breast and genitals.   I have them do this flat footed, but if you wish to make it more difficult, have them stand on tiptoe. In this position the slave is fully accessible. He/she can be viewed in an unobstructed manner, or any part may be inspected at close range or touched. This is also a good position for inspection of a slave by others. 

  • Voice Command–Inspect
  • Hand Signal–Clap
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Examine

 EXAMINE–Slave lies on back, hands at sides, palms facing upward. Legs are spread wide open. This could be for a medical examination or for genitorture.  Useful position.    Required when commanded.

  • Voice Command–Examine
  • Hand Signal–Hand parallel to floor moved sharply from left to right

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Flip Side

 FLIP SIDE–facedown, head turned to right, hands at sides, palms facing upward. Legs are spread wide open.  The converse to Examine.  Useful for humiliation or anal play/torture. Required when commanded.

  • Voice Command-Over
  • Hand Signal–fist moved from left to right

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Present

 PRESENT — slave bends over, spread cheeks of ass with hands exposing the anus to the Owner.  Useful for humiliation or anal use.

  • Voice Command–Present
  • Hand Signal–Turning motion with fist

                                             BASIC SERVICE POSITIONS

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Collaring

 COLLARING– slave kneels up at the Owner’s feet and knees a shoulder width apart, back straight, with arms behind back, one wrist grasping the other, and head and eyes lowered. Required when commanded or at the beginning of a session for visiting slaves.  An alternative is to have him/her hold back their hair with the right hand for ease of collaring.

  • Voice Command–Collar
  • Hand Signal–Right hand to throat
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Standard

 STANDARD–Basic position of a slave. The slave is kneeling, legs spread, feet together, back straight, sitting back on heels, hands on knees - palms up. The slave keeps his/her chin up but eyes are always downcast. This is a punishment position and one that can be uncomfortable for the slave after a short while. This is a nice position for lecturing the slave on his/her misdoings. (variation–slave keeps legs together sitting back on heels.  I prefer this when company is present.  I have a friend who reduced a girl almost to tears by insisting that her toes and knees be perfectly aligned in each position and then made her change positions rapidly.)

  • Voice Command–Standard
  • Hand Signal–Finger Snap
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Instruct

 INSTRUCT– In this position the slave sits before his/her owner, legs spread, hands clasped behind his/her back. The slave’s legs are bent, slave sitting back on heels. Back straight. This is an excellent position for the owner to sit in a chair before him/her for verbal instruction/indoctrination or correction.

  • Voice Command–Instruct
  • Hand Signal–Right hand taps right ear twice
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Wait

 WAIT — Standing, hands behind back, left wrist grasped by right wrist; or kneeling, up, knees wide, left wrist grasped by right hand. Kneeling slaves can easily move into a standard or kowtow when required. Eyes should be lowered with chin up, unless slave is waiting for visual signals in which case he/she will keep eyes on Mistress/Master, but respectfully at attention.  WAIT position is required whenever a slave is inactive but waiting on orders.

  • Voice Command–Wait
  • Hand Signal–Elbow slightly bent; hand bent back sharply at wrist
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Slave Sit

 Slave Sit–Slave sits with one leg bent in front and one leg bent behind. This is an esthetic position, and easier for women than men.  It demonstrates a slave’s grace and flexibility

  • Voice Command–Slave Sit
  • Hand Signal–None

                                BEGGING, SUBMISSION OR REVERENCE

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Kowtow

 KOWTOW — on knees, feet flat and straight behind, arms outstretched forward on the floor, legs together with knees aligned,  hands in front palm down and gracefully crossed. Forehead rests on forearms. Buttocks should be on heels, but this is not always possible as some slaves are just not flexible enough. Formal requests are to be made from this position. Required when commanded. 

  • Voice Command–Down
  • Hand Signal–Two fingers pointed to floor

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Reverence

 REVERENCE–drop to the floor, laying upon stomach, face down before the Owner.   The slave turns head and places cheek against the Owner’s feet, kissing them lightly in a gesture of love and submission. Required when commanded.   I always think this is a great opening to asking for something.

  • Voice Command–Reverence
  • Hand Signal–One finger pointed at floor

                                               BOUND POSITIONS

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Cuffs

 CUFFS front or back–hands out in front OR behind back, shoulders pushed back, hands touching but not clasped, ready for cuffs to be placed on wrists. This position is used to put on cuffs for chaining the slave. Required when commanded.

  • Voice Command–Cuffs front (or back)
  • Hand Signal–Index finger and thumb of right hand encircling left wrist (front) //Index finger and thumb of left hand encircling right wrist (back)

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Prone
PRONE–on stomach, face down and turned to the left with wrists crossed behind back. slave’s ankles are crossed as well, ready for binding. This position is used for a variety of reasons, sometimes as punishment.  Nice position, but realize if you bind someone’s ankles in this position, they are not going to be able to stand.
 
  • Voice Command–Prone
  • Hand Signal–None

                                                PET POSITIONS

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Leash

 LEASH– slave, kneeling up, bends neck to the Owner’s hand to be leashed; chin is lifted and head turned to the left, offering collar for leashing. The wrists are behind back, ready to be snapped into slave bracelets. Required when commanded. Variation: from a standing position. slave stands, hands crossed at the small of the back, feet shoulderwidth apart,. back and shoulders slightly arched, head held high and tilted to the left with eyes downcast in respect and submission. Required when commanded.

  • Voice Command–Leash
  • Hand Signal–Fist against side of throat
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Heel

 HEEL–stands and moves behind Owner, bending at the waist. slave places hands behind back and puts the side of the head to the Owner’s hip, that She might lead slave easily by the hair or collar while walking. Required when commanded.

  • Voice Command–Heel
  • Hand Signal–Slap thigh on side you wish slave to heel to
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Petsit

 PET SIT– Collared slave kneels at side of Owner as he/she holds slave’s leash. One knee is on the floor, leg spread out behind, foot resting with sole up, toes out. Other leg is at chest, head lowered, hands at side for stability. This position works well for Mistress to stop and chat with others while slave demonstrates he/she knows his/her place.

  • Voice Command–Sit
  • Hand Signal–Hand extended down, palm parallel to floor

                                              PUNISHMENT POSITIONS

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OTK

 OTK: The slave carefully drapes him/herself over the Owner’s legs, hands before him/her to steady him/herself as the Owner uses hand, hair brush, crop, paddle, and other torture devices.

  • Voice Command–Over the knee
  • Hand Signal–None

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Corporal

 CORPORAL– first assume the WAIT position, though with arms crossed in front. Slave then leans forward and grabs his/her ankles bringing head as close to knees as possible and offering back and buttocks to the whip. Required when commanded. (Note, I don’t care for this as a flogging position, too awkward, but it’s a humiliating position for caning and spanking.  Just be careful not to overbalance the slave.)

  • Voice Command–Assume the position. 
  • Hand Signal–None

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Corner

 CORNER–In this position - used primarily for punishment or keeping a slave in position - a slave stands on his/her toes, (or flat footed if the Dominant feels merciful) facing a wall, nose delicately holding a ping pong ball (or a penny) in place against a wall. An even worse punishment is in store if the object falls to the floor. The slave’s wrists are bound behind his/her back to prevent retrieval of a dropped object,  and for male slaves, his penis must not be allowed to touch the wall. Definitely an obnoxious situation for the slave.  (I recommend leaving the room for this punishment as that makes it even more boring for the slave.)

  • Voice Command–Corner
  • Hand Signal–Index finger of right hand touching nose

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Belly Down

 BELLY DOWN– slave lies on stomach, arms outstretched over head on the floor; required during discipline or training.  Good position for trampling or using slave as footrest for long periods.

  • Voice Command–Belly
  • Hand Signal–None

                                               SEXUAL POSITIONS

QUADRUPED

– fall to hands and knees, head down on the floor, buttocks thrust upward and thighs widely spread, exposing buttocks fully in preparation for viewing, sexual use, or corporal. “Serving in the manner of the quadruped” is an instruction whereby the slave performs regular duties upon hands and knees, without the use of hands. In this mode the slave may not rise to stand on feet and may use only mouth and teeth to grasp and manipulate objects. This is most often a punishment position.

  • Voice Command–Quad
  • Hand Signal–None

TONGUE

–This position simply demands that the slave fall into whatever position is best so that the slave’s tongue is able to best serve the Owner. This is for any oral/genital contact and the slave’s comfort is not an issue at this point. The only issue relevant to the slave is how well he/she is doing in pleasing his/her owner.

  • Voice Command–Tongue
  • Hand Signal–None

COCK

– Either pointing to the floor or the bed this position puts the slave on his back ready for the sexual needs or desires of his Owner. The slave should be erect, fully aroused and know it is his responsibility to service his owner whether he/she decides to mount him at mouth or cock.

  • Voice Command–Cock
  • Hand Signal–None

SLUT

–male on his knees, head down, legs spread, hands behind pulling open his ass for Owner/Mistress’ inspection and insertion. The slave is always erect in this position and is ready for strap-on/dildo training/humiliation. Female slaves are on back, knees up, labia held spread with fingers.

  • Voice Command-Slut
  • Hand Signal–None

                                                             WALKING

PONY WALK

– slave bends somewhat forward, palms on knees, and walks on the toes; required when commanded.

  • Voice Command–Pony Walk
  • Hand Signal–None

DOG WALK

–slave crawls on hands and knees like a dog; required when commanded or during puppy play..

  • Voice Command–Dog walk
  • Hand Signal–None

ON TIPPY TOES

–slave walks on toes only; required when commanded or in the case of transvestite training during feminization.

  • Voice Command–On toes
  • Hand Signal–None

 


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Sunday, May 31, 2009

Ladies! Be Aware Of the Risk Of Date Rape Drugs…

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Sunday, May 10, 2009

Ladies, What Orgasms are all about? Answer in one word -Cunnilingus!

 id you know that in a recent study, only 60% of the women said they enjoy vaginal sex  and only 25% achieve orgasm from traditional penetration? (Masters and Johnson: Human Sexual Response )

Let’s face it, of course your man want to help you reach climax more often, but every time he don’t satisfy you completely, it becomes personal. You feel like less of woman, lose sleep over your performance and maybe you even worry that he may leave you.

In short, it feels bad!

However, after talking to hundreds of women and having studied the science of sex myself, I discovered something very fascinating…

Did you know that… 

• While only 25% of women regularly achieve orgasm from traditional vaginal penetration, 81% of women reach orgasm from cunnilingus?

• and 88% of married women say cunnilingus is their preferred and most enjoyable sexual act? (Masters and Johnson)

Is that an  eye-opening or what?

In the end, these results definitely explain why so many couples have such non fulfilling sex lives. They’re missing out on a major aspect of sex!

Now, just imagine how much more sex you’ll enjoy together when you teach him how to give  you more frequent orgasms. Not to mention, You’ll probably want to return the favor back to him, too. :D

And ultimately, quality oral sex will help strengthen your relationship and help you get closer to your partner than ever before.

However the problem is that…

Most Men Think That ‘Any Old’
Lick Will Do …WRONG!

This couldn’t be further from the truth! For example:

Do you know the 8 components of a woman’s genitals and how to specifically stimulate each of them?
Do you know what order and how long you should lick and caress each one?
And by using these combination, do you know how to give a woman two different types of orgasms at the same time? (And yes, it is possible!)

Let’s face it, while it just seems like it’s all about “licking” there’s actually much more to it. You need to lick the right places, in the right order, for the right amount of time!

And with over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, you better make sure you know exactly what you’re doing before you poke your tongue down there, otherwise it could be really painful, spoil the mood or even turn her off cunnilingus altogether.

In short, most men have NO IDEA how to please their wives or girlfriends with oral sex. Why? Because no one out there is teaching this stuff properly! So sad!…

But, you just keep reading this blog …. click on cunnilingus on the right and Learn more on this subject by a professional trainer on this subject — Sir. Sexy Cruiser — WHY? Because ladies come to Las Vegas to have sessions with him for only $5oo, and that cheap if a woman has never orgasm before… and want one so bad….

Ladies, Keep reading this blog and make your life better with a better sex life and lifestyle.

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Thursday, March 12, 2009

Women Spanking Men - Giving Him His First Spanking!

 

Women Spanking Men - Giving Him His First Spanking!

Posted By  Sir. Sexy Cruiser

You’re a woman, and you’ve never spanked a man before but would like to. What should you do?

In many ways, this is easier than wanting to be spanked yourself, because you can take a more active role. However, unless your man is already into receiving spankings, or unless your desires are satisfied by giving fairly mild spankings, you’ll probably want to talk to your partner about your desires sooner or later.

Start Slowly
Start Slowly

First, be clear about your desires. If you can’t get turned on except by giving a fairly severe spankings, you may well end up having to find someone who is already into being spanked. While most people can end up dealing with mild spankings, severe spanking is definitely not a taste that you can or should expect someone to acquire.

If you can be satisfied by giving playful, relatively mild spankings, however, there are still some issues to keep in mind.

First, before even thinking about the spanking, think about the emotional aspects. Never spank someone for a ‘real’ fault or mistake unless your relationship already has that aspect to it. Never suggest that your partner is submissive in any way, shape, or form, other than in taking a spanking, unless your relationship already has that aspect to it. Most importantly, learn and respect your partner’s preferences in dealing with a spanking; you’re already asking to do something different to your man; don’t push your man into bad emotional states at the same time!

Next, start slowly. The best ‘first swats’ is one that is given over some clothing as a teasing or playful gesture. This lets you measure your partner’s emotional reaction to spanking, and lets you decide if you want to press the issue. Be careful on those first few swats! A single spank that hits too hard might give your partner the idea that you’re into ‘pain’, not ’spanking’.

If your partner reacts well to these initial swats, you’ll want to bare his ass and try some more swats. If you do so, however, go slowly and be careful! Yes, it can be a bit embarrassing to admit that you would like to take your partner over your knee and administer a good spanking; it can be a lot worse to have to explain why you hurt him, either physically or emotionally.

In any case, patience is an absolute necessity. If your man isn’t ‘naturally’ into spanking, you have to make sure that every spanking you administer is a pleasant experience. Since the spanking itself my not be pleasant, make sure that your man always gets something pleasant out of the experience. This helps link your playful spankings to pleasure for your man, and will actually help your partner enjoy more and even harder spankings.

Work slowly, not just physically, but psychologically. If your partner ends up enjoying light spanks over his underwear, do not assume that your man will like the same ‘physical level’ of spanks on the bare bottom! There is little physical difference, but the psychological difference is immense.

Give Him A Treat After Spanking Him

When working on an uncertain person, spank fairly gently, and mix your hard spanks with softer ones, and with lots of rubbing and caresses. Even a person who doesn’t specifically like spankings might learn to enjoy a few hard swats to bring about a sting, followed by kisses and caresses for contrast.

Finally, and most importantly, let your man be your guide. Learn to read your partner for signs that say when you’re spanking too hard. Also learn to read your man for when you’ve actually gotten to the ‘right’ level of spanking! While your spankings may simply be something your partner ‘puts up with’ for the pleasure of being your lover, it’s even better if you both end up enjoying the spankings.

 

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F/M Spanking - Controlling The Man During A Real Spanking

F/M Spanking - Controlling The Man During A Real Spanking

Posted By Sir. Sexy Cruiser

Not every man responds to f/m spankings in the same way. Some men take their f/m spankings very well. They automatically accept the fact that they are being spanked for their own good. They follow the woman’s instructions to the letter. They undress promptly and without complaint. They place themselves over the woman’s lap, presenting their bottoms obediently. When their f/m spanking starts, they do not squirm and struggle in a vain attempt to escape their spanking. Instead, they submit obediently to their spanking, despite the embarrassment and shame of the spanking they are receiving from the woman. At some stage of the spanking process, such men are brought to tears and begin to cry in a deep emotional release that cleanses their hearts and activates their naturally submission.

Real F/M Spankings, Bare Ass’d And Intense!

Men who take their f/m spankings well are usually characterized by the relative quietness with which they submit to their spankings. Not only do they not struggle nor attempt to block the woman as she spanks their bottom, but they also submit to their spanking without making a lot of noise, apart from the inevitable tears and sobbing that mark the beginning of the release process.

One of the worst forms of male misbehavior during a f/m spanking relates to the amount of noise made by the spanked man. This misbehavior is not related to whether he is crying or not. Some men naturally cry rather loudly, while others sob more quietly.

But some men hide their rebellion, their disrespect and their disobedience behind a hysterical kind of yelling or loud noise that they utter during discipline. They may wait until their tears start to flow before yelling, or their yells may begin long before their sobs. Such men may even think it is a “macho” form of resistance to the woman’s authority to yell when she spanks him. They think that, “She can spank me if she wants, but I am going to pay her back by yelling as if I am being murdered.!”

This yelling is more than just loud crying or sobbing. It is an active attempt on the man’s part to disrupt and undermine the spanking process. It is a form of active rebellion. It is a way for him to demonstrate his disrespect for his tops authority.

Yelling is a way for a man to enlist male help in an emergency situation. If a man is in a state of extreme danger, fright or risk, he will instinctively yell in order to attract potential rescuers to his aid. The piercing nature of a man’s yell will cut through many other types of noise, alerting people nearby that someone is in grave danger.

So when a man starts yelling without genuine reason during his discipline, he is creating a kind of false alarm. He is misusing his natural ability to yell in a loud voice when serious danger threatens him. He is attempting to use his woman’s protective instincts to discourage her from spanking him any further.

A man who yells during his punishment is creating a false sense of emergency. This is selfish, childish and wrong. There is no real emergency. The only thing that is happening is that the man is being spanked to tears for his own good. His woman is not trying to kill him. She is trying to help him - to enable him to have a cathartic emotional experience that will restore him to a more peaceful, loving and harmonious state of mind and heart.

Nonetheless, it is the woman’s responsibility to determine whether a genuine emergency does exist. She loves her man and cares for his welfare, so she will naturally not want him to come to serious harm. She should stop spanking him when he starts to yell. If his yelling stops, it is usually a good indication that his yells were disobedient, disrespectful and dishonest, rather than a sign of a real emergency. If he still keeps yelling, she can ask him what the problem is. If he continues to yell, she can administer a few short, sharp slaps to his bottom and address him in a much sterner tone. This will usually get his attention and return him to a more obedient state. Questioning him about his yelling is usually the fastest way to discover what the real problem is, if indeed there is any problem at all.

If this is the first time that the man has ever yelled during his f/m spanking, he can be warned once about the consequences of yelling when there is no valid emergency situation. Some women will let him off for a first offense, after ensuring that he has been clearly warned of what will happen the next time he yells without justification. It is important that this verbal warning be clearly stated and obviously understood by the man, since he will not be given a second chance.

As many other articles about F/M spankings have already emphasized, crying during discipline is a highly positive outcome for the man. Tears and sobbing are a natural part of the f/m spanking process. They enhance the man’s experience of his f/m spanking, producing a more effective emotional catharsis and enabling the man to achieve full emotional release.

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Thursday, January 1, 2009

Analingus Sex Positions
(from the secret notebook of
Sir. Sex Cruiser)

 

Best Positions for Analingus
 
Here are some suggestions to get you started. Experiment and find what works best for you and your partner.

  1. Lying Down

    This is the most natural position for many people and probably the easiest for beginners. Just roll your partner onto their stomach and start nosing around their bum or licking the small of their back. Before you know it, you’ll be down in the valley. For a better angle and access, have your partner raise their hips slightly and slide a pillow underneath their pelvis. This will raise their butt up and make their cheeks easier to spread. This may progress naturally to them getting up on their knees in a kneeling or crouching position, pushing their ass eagerly into your face.

  2. Yoga

    These positions work well if your partner is athletic or limber. The recipient lays on the bed and assumes a shoulder-stand position (legs and torso in the air, with weight supported on the neck and shoulders). With their ass pointing up, you can kneel upright on the bed and bury your face in it from either side. If you position yourself near your partner’s head, they can rest their legs or knees on your shoulders.

    If your partner’s spine is really flexible, they can expose their ass to you fully by placing their feet on the bed above their head, or even placing their knees on either side of their head. This is also a perfect position for guys to attempt autofellatio.

  3. Standing

 

If the person to be eatenI is standing up you can crouch down behind them. Here you have easy access to raise your hands and separate their cheeks for a clear shot to that puckered hole. Many people find crouching for any length of time to be uncomfortable. Try sitting in a chair and have your partner stand in front of you with your knees between their legs. Now you have the same access, but because you are sitting in a chair, you have far more leverage to get into some serious eating.

Another variation on the standing recipient is to have them put one leg up on something — chair, a step, the edge of the bathtub. It all depends on what’s handy where you happen to be. The raised leg not only helps separate the cheeks for you, but it exposes the perineum for your tongue to tend to.

4. Bending Over

If your partner bends over while receiving, it give you a more straightforward angle to approach their hole. Instead of having to tilt your head so that you are coming up from underneath, you can aim directly for the center of their vertical smile. You also have an easy reach to fondle his testicles or her clit.

Try having your partner lean over something that is more than waist high so their feet dangle just above the floor. A kitchen counter or a porch railing often works well for this. If you do happen to be in the kitchen, try covering that ass with whip cream before you start eating. Add some chocolate sauce and nuts and you’ll have a butt sundae.

5.  Sit on My Face

Lay down on the bed with your head laying back over the edge of the mattress. Have your partner back up and squat down onto your face. When they become tired of squatting they can lean back and lay across your body. This is an especially good position if you like to do the eating. With your partners ass shoved so tightly to your mouth, you feel compelled to work your tongue in as deeply as is humanly possible.

The other variation is the always popular 69 position, where one partner squats over the other, and the partner on the bottom raises their knees up to allow access to their hole. This way you can eat each other’s asses. And if you don’t want to argue over who’s on top, try laying on your sides and bend around until you each have your faces comfortably in the other’s crack.

 
        SIR. SEXY CRUIUSER              Playmate   Notebook                                                                 June 25th 1999
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Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Top Five Tips for Eating Ass ( Analingues)

Top Five Tips for Eating Ass
 
1. Clean up

Cleanliness is even more of a issue with analingus than with tradition oral sex. Taking a sexy bath or shower together is a relaxing form of foreplay and will allow your partner to get squeaky clean. You or your partner should soap their butt and asshole (anus), inserting a finger into the rectum, and rinse thoroughly with warm water. An enema usually isn’t necessary if you wash well.
 


2. Ease in

Let you partner relax and get comfortable with you exploring their posterior before you bury your tongue in their ass. Massage their back and buttocks, kiss and caress their thighs and ass cheeks. Spread their cheeks and blow warm breaths over their hole. Lick, suck, and nibble their butt, perineum (the area of skin between the asshole and genitals), and the skin around their pucker. Get everything warm, wet, and lubricated with saliva. Assholes usually contract when stimulated, and then expand. Lick gently or tap the tip of your tongue against their asshole, and wait for a response. After a bit of gentle probing, the sphincter muscles should start to relax and welcome deeper exploration.

3. Work your tongue

The anal region is full of sensitive nerve endings just begging for your tongue’s caress. Keep your mouth moist and supple as you work their hole over. Keep your tongue loose and paint wide circle around their pucker. Make it tight, long and pointed to probe and penetrate. Work it in and out, around and around, till your partner begs for more.


4. Use your hands

In some ass-eating positions, your hands may be full keeping your partner’s butt cheeks spread to allow you better access to their hole. But it’s worthwhile to convince them to either sit on your face or reach back and clamp their ass open wide themselves. That way you can put your own paws to work massaging your partner’s clit, or stroking off his cock, or tweaking his or her nipples.

5. Pig out

Once you’ve got your face in your partner’s butt, don’t hold back. Worship your partner’s ass. Get lost in it, make love to it. Eating out someone’s ass is one of the most intimate of all sexual acts. If both partners approach it with openness and enthusiasm, they will be rewarded with unparalleled enjoyment, whether eating ass is a main course, a spicy side dish, or appetizer for anal sex.
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Is Analingus Safe?

Is Analingus Safe?
 

Let’s face it: no matter how pink, puckered, squeaky clean, and appealing your partner’s asshole is, you know what comes out of it. And you’re putting your tongue up there. How healthy can that be? It’s natural to be concerned about contracting an infection or disease through oral-to-anal contact. For answers about the risks associated with analingus (also called eating ass, rimming, or tossing salad), we went straight to the horse’s mouth — the Centers for Disease Control (CDC).

STDs and More

The intestinal tract is filled with bacteria that are part of the digestive process; these do not pose any health threat. However, eating ass will expose you to any bad germs or infections harbored in your partner’s intestinal tract or anal area. The CDC warns that “rimming carries a risk of transmission of STDs including hepatitis A. There is also risk of intestinal parasites, like cryptosporidiosis.”

In addition, the CDC cautions that “immunocompromised persons are suggested to avoid performing this activity.” So if you aren’t in good health and have an immune deficiency (say from AIDS or chemotherapy), eating ass could put you at serious risk.

Here’s a rundown of some of the diseases you could be exposed to when eating ass:

  • Hepatitis A: Hepatitis A is a virus spread through oral contact with the fecal matter of an infected person. It affects the liver and causes symptoms such as jaundice, fatigue, and nausea. It is not a chronic infection, unlike hepatitis C. Hepatitis A can be prevented with a vaccine given before or shortly after exposure.
     
  • E. coli: This is a bacterial infection spread through oral contact with the fecal matter of an infected person. Its symptoms include diarrhea, vomiting, and intestinal bleeding.
     
  • Intestinal parasites: These are microbial organisms that cause intestinal diseases including cryptosporidiosis, dysentery, and giardiasis. Symptoms include diarrhea, fever, and stomach pain. Again, these are spread through oral contact with the fecal matter of an infected person.
     
  • Bacterial infections: If a person contracts food poisoning, the bacteria that causes it, say salmonella for example, will be shed in their feces and could be transmitted through oral-anal contact. Symptoms include diarrhea and vomiting.
     
  • Other STDs: If the receiving partner has a rectal gonorrhea infection, it could be contracted by the active partner; gonorrhea can infect the mouth and throat. This means that theoretically a person with an oral gonorrhea infection could transmit it to the ass that they’re eating. Other STDs that can be transmitted through oral-anal contact include syphilis and herpes, if either partner has an active lesion in their mouth or anal area.

HIV Risk?

Finally some good news: your chances of being infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, are pretty low while eating ass. The CDC reports that the HIV virus is not found in feces itself. And the amount of HIV that can be present in saliva is too small to infect another person, making mouth-to-ass infection unlikely. According to the CDC, “There would not be a risk of HIV transmission unless blood was also transmitted between partners (such as if the performing partner was infected and had blood in his mouth).” Or if the recipient was bleeding from the ass and the active partner had an open cut or sore in his or her mouth.

Playing It Safe

You can protect against transmission of diseases by using a barrier during analingus. You can use a latex dental dam, or make a barrier by cutting the end off an unlubricated condom and then slitting it lengthwise. Many people also use plastic wrap; although it hasn’t been scientifically tested as a disease barrier, it does prevent the transmission of body fluids. For extra sensation, place a dab of lubricant on the side of the barrier that will go against your partner’s ass. Hold the barrier in place firmly, and place your tongue against it to lick and probe their asshole.

The Bottom Line

If both you and your partner are healthy, your risk of contracting a disease through analingus is probably pretty low. However, there is always some risk in oral-anal contact, and there are a number of diseases that can be transmitted through this route. You can make the act of eating ass safer by using a barrier between your mouth and your partner’s asshole.

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Top 5 CUNILINGUS tips

1. Start slow

Don’t be in a hurry to attack her clit. Kiss, nibble, and suck on her mouth, her breasts, her thighs. Like any sex act, she needs to be relaxed and ready before you start getting serious. Even when you do make it down there, kiss and lick and suck on all of her, not just her clit. Her labia need attention too, and many women love having a tongue pushed up inside of them. 

2. Find the clit

You need to find the spot near or on her clit that is “just right” for her, the area that, with every flick of your tongue, sends surges of pleasure through her body. No, I am not going to draw you a picture, or describe a roadmap. The best way to find it is simply to ask her. Each woman is slightly different in how she wants to be stimulated, so tell her to give you guidance as your explore her nether regions. 

Note: some women find direct clitoral stimulation too intense. You need to communicate to find the way to stimulate her best.

3. Relax your tongue

Many men tense up their tongues and flick the tip furiously against her clit. That’s all wrong. A relaxed tongue will do the trick better, using the broad flat part, whether you flick it or just bob your head.

4. Use your hands

Your hands are free, so use them! A little finger-fucking is a great complement to clitoral stimulation. You can also caress her labia, lubed up with her own juices, of course. If you’re an adventuresome couple, even try putting a finger or two up her ass. However, be careful not to put them anywhere near the vagina after that. A pair of latex gloves and water-based lube will definitely come in handy. 

5. Get down to business

Once you’ve gotten her excited and figured out her hot spots, it’s time to get down to business. Flick your tongue with a steady rhythm over her clit. Don’t stop, and don’t change the rhythm. That’s the key to making her come: patience and a steady stroke. Don’t vary things too much, and for goodness sake, don’t ask her “did you come yet?” Let her fall naturally into an intense, mind-blowing orgasm

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Thursday, May 15, 2008

LADIES REMEMBER — SAFETY FIRST!!!!!

Safety First!

By: SEXY_CRUISER

Everyone has heard at least one horror story. Someone got burned, someone got electrocuted, someone got killed; those stories have been around forever.
For those who have common sense, this little safety lecture is just a review of what you already know. But for the rest of you, whether your ignorance comes from simply being new to the scene or because you just simply didn’t think of it, I suggest that you bookmark this one for future reference.
This may well be fodder for future installments of specific activities, so be patient.

KNOW YOUR PARTNER’S LIMITS
I’m addressing this to both Dom/me and sub. EVERYONE has limits, and you should well know them.

USE YOUR BRAIN!
Yes, I know that this is all for fun, but using your head a bit will prevent problems later. “An ounce of prevention is worth an ounce of cure” is a very relevant statement here. Think about the scene before you play it, and take necessary measures to ensure safety for all participants.

HAVE THE RIGHT EQUIPMENT
Time and again, accidents happen because someone was using the wrong tool(s) for the job. Folks, I realize fishing line is superbly strong, but do NOT suspend anyone with it. If you need to ask why, then it is probably best that you not bother with this lifestyle and instead head over to your local Bass Pro.

LISTEN
Tops, this one is mostly for You. Have both a verbal and non-verbal means of communicating a safe word. Many subs love to moan and cry and whimper and scream during play, but your safe word(s) should be completely unique or something everyone around you knows, such as RED.
In the event that your lovely is all tied up and gagged, make sure he or she can indicate non-verbally a safe word. For example, I have two ways of allowing a non-verbal red: If the boy has nothing in his hands, or if his hands are bound, he is to “tap out” by either slapping the furniture twice for yellow and thrice for red, or I have a cowbell which he is to drop for a red.
ALWAYS be able to hear your sub, even if it means not playing somewhere that’s too loud due to conversation or music or both.

PAY ATTENTION
This is along the same lines as listening, however, this includes knowing your surroundings. Know where you are, where doors are, who is present and where they are. Pay attention to what you’re doing as well as to what others are doing. You can control your actions; you can’t control everyone else’s.

DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME
This should be a no-brainer, but it bears repeating. Homestyle BDSM is great fun, but if you’re trying something new, then do it with someone else around. This will help you to not only focus more on the activity but to learn from the other person if that person is experienced in what you’re doing.
Having an extra, (or two), allows for you to not have to focus on many outside distractions, as the extra(s) will be watching for you. Don’t ever discount a good extra.

EVERY top should have a good knowledge of basic first aid treatment. It’s also a good idea to be certified in CPR. Accidents do happen, and if you’re not able to deal with them, accidents can escalate swiftly into emergencies.

KEEP A PHONE NEARBY
Keep it in arm’s reach while you play in case you need to call for help. If the submissive is to be left alone, (usually not a good idea in the first place), then he or she needs to be able to reach the phone if necessary.

KEEP A FIRST AID KIT HANDY
Make sure it’s completely stocked and in the same room, (in arm’s reach for extreme play sessions such as blades or needles). Make sure this kit also contains Pedialyte or Gatorade, Pedialyte preferred as the electrolytes absorb more quickly.
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Sunday, April 20, 2008

The Rules of BDSM:Safe, Sane,
and Consensual

The Rules of BDSM: Safe, Sane,
 and Consensual

By: SEXY CRUISER

In the Lifestyle of BDSM, there is one thing that remains consistant: The Rule of Three (Safe, Sane, and Consensual). It is the guideline by which all things are done, from meeting, to negotiation, to play and quite often to a relationship itself. When things are Safe, Sane, and Consensual, the margin for error is drastically reduced, and all participants feel more at ease.

As an example, I can use alcohol and drug use to show how this rule can affect us. If a person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs, (which, incidentally, alcohol IS A DRUG), would you ever consider playing/sceneing with that person? Think about it: Alcohol is a depressant. If a scene got intense and that person under the influence was either unable or unwilling to respond to a need, how safe or sane is that?

Drugs are also a bad idea, for the same reason. If a person were high, stoned or cranked, I know that I am sure as hell you wouldn’t want to scene with him! That’s downright crazy! Sceneing with a person under the influence is often thought of as a cry for help amongst BDSM-knowledgeable suicide preventions workers!

Slaves and subs, when they scene with a Dom/me, are literally putting their lives in the Dominant’s hands. A trustworthy, caring Dominant can take the slave/sub into the farthest reaches of the galaxy of subspace, and quite often s/he is delighted to do so. A Dom/me that is doped-up or drunk can literally kill or severely injure the playmate. One wrong move during ass-play or bondage scenes, and it’s all over.

On the other side of that equation, a slave/sub must also be clear headed going into things, so that, if necessary, the slave can use a given safeword at any time. Drunk or toked subs/slaves seem to have excessive difficulty with this, and so are more apt to get themselves hurt or killed.

Simply put, if you or your potential partner has indulged in some drinks or a few drugs, (yes, pot counts!), do NOT scene! It’s a deadly combination, something that no one will call Safe, Sane, or Consensual. It’s NOT Safe, it’s NOT Sane, and under the influence, often people tend to forget what happened the night/day before, so even if drunken/stoned consent is given, it’s still NOT Consensual!

Keep this in mind next time you go to play. Make sure alcohol is not an option in your negotiations and play, and please keep it Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

Keep it fun. Keep it REAL.
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