Thursday, May 21, 2009

Spanking, sex, and endorphins

Spanking, sex, and endorphins

Endorphins play an important role when dealing with spanking at the harder levels.  Let’s take a quick look at what endorphins are and then we will explore the role they play in spanking.  Endorphins are neurotransmitters found in the brain that have pain relieving properties similar to morphine.  Endorphins interact with opiate receptor neurons in the brain and essentially block pain signals sent to the brain by the nervous system.  While research on the topic is still relatively new, studies are showing that endorphins are very beneficial to our bodies.  Recent studies suggest that, among other things, endorphins enhance the immune system, relieve pain, reduce stress, as well counter some of the effects of the aging process. 

Most of us are most familiar with the production of endorphins as a result of heavy exercise, or as the result of physical pain.  The body produces endorphins at high levels in more situations than just these.  Sexual activity produces endorphins and research shows that over the course of a sexual encounter endorphin levels can increase as much as 200%.  It has been suggested that the euphoric feelings that one experiences after sex are the result of high levels of endorphins running through the body.  There are also foods that are tied with the production of endorphins.  Eating hot chili peppers or chocolate can result in the release of endorphins.  This helps to explain why some people eat chocolate during times of stress and find it to be a comfort food.  While released in smaller amounts than during sex, consuming chocolate can produce enough endorphins to create a euphoric feeling.

Endorphins play an important role in spanking and may further explain why those that are not really into spanking find pleasure in having their bottom smacked during sex.  As illustrated above, the production of endorphins can lead to a euphoric feeling, and a little pain mixed in with sex can go a long way to increase the pleasure.  According to Producers of spanking videos, endorphins play a very important role in what we do.  For the models that we spank that are really into it, being sexually turned on can carry them through the harder scenes we do.  Models that are not into it do not have the benefits of sexual excitement in a scene and it takes endorphins to allow them to carry on past their limits. We are often asked how we are able to find so many young and beautiful models that will take such a hard spanking.  I think one of the main reasons is that we are good at what we do and can guide just about anyone through a very hard scene.  We have learned to use the concept of endorphins to our advantage.  We always start each day slowly and work a model into the harder scenes.  Even a moderate spanking, applied to someone’s bottom who does not like it, will produce endorphins.  When it comes time to do a harder scene, the nervous system is already slightly prepared for what is to come.  In addition, we have learned to recognize when the body steps things up and begins producing endorphins at very high levels.  It takes practice and knowing the person you are spanking, but it is possible to visibly see the signs that let you know that endorphins are kicking in to high gear.  You will often see scenes in which the model struggles hard for the first half, and even though the spanking increases in intensity, she fights the whole process less towards the end.  This is a result of her body finding a way to cope with the pain by producing endorphins.  By recognizing when this happens, we can take a model much farther than she really expected to be able to go.  Endorphins are also responsible for the fact that immediately after an intense spanking, people report that their bottoms do not hurt as much as they expected.  The surprise comes a couple of hours later when they realize that they are very sore, much more so than they expected.  Once the body reduces its level of endorphin production, the true soreness from the spanking is fully realized.

There is still a lot of research to be done in this area, but there is enough of it out there currently to support what I have said.  As a spanker, or a spankee, you can learn to use endorphins to your advantage.  There are many people that have the desire to receive a hard spanking, but find that they can not tolerate anything more than a light spanking.  This is about more than just pain tolerance; it is about being properly guided through a scene that increases in intensity.  Endorphins are the reason that people can take a harder spanking after a warm-up.  I feel confident that I can take anyone into spanking, regardless of their pain tolerance, to a level of intensity that they had no concept that they could achieve.  I have had seen models s that at the beginning, could barely make it through a handspanking, that are now able to take a wooden paddle on their bare ass.  Nothing happened to increase their pain tolerance, we simply got to know them better and as a result were better able to read their body language to see when the harder spanking could begin.  I think many spanking producers short themselves in a big way with model selection.  They hire anyone cute and then just spank the hell out of them.  The ones that survive are hired again, the ones that don’t are sent packing.  They do not take the time to learn how to guide someone to the level of intensity their audience wants to see.  They simply end up with models who can naturally deal with a lot of pain.  If they would learn more about endorphins and use it to their advantage, they would quickly find the size of their model pool increasing by 500%. 

I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest something that I have never seen mentioned before.  First let’s look at some of the current findings in the area of endorphin research.  It has been found that endorphins:

- enhance the immune system
- relieve pain
- reduce stress
- counter some of the effects of the aging process
- increase the release of sexual hormones
- cause a euphoric feeling

Now if there was a pill that could do all of the above things, I am pretty sure that doctors would prescribe it to just about everyone.  You do not need a pill, you already have the prescription (your ass) and you just need to have it filled (a spanking).  If you want to better fight off illness, better deal with pain, reduce the stress of your daily life, look and feel younger, increase your sexual drive, and find a natural high without drugs or alcohol, then spanking is the cure.

Russian scientists at the Novosibirsk Institute of Medicine are claiming a beating on the naked buttocks with a cane is the perfect way to cure everything from depression to alcoholism.
The researchers say caning releases endorphins, the body’s natural ‘happy chemicals’, and that leads to feelings of euphoria, a reduction of appetite, the release of sex hormones and an enhancement of the immune response, and they have a similar effect on pain as drugs such as morphine and codeine, but do not lead to addiction or dependence.

Biologist Dr Sergei Speransky who led the research claims corporal punishment, similar to that doled out regularly in British schools in the last century, helps people overcome addiction and depression. He confirms he is not a sadist even though he recommends caning and says the treatment works. A standard treatment course entails 30 sessions with 60 of the best, delivered on the buttocks by a person of average build.

Dr Marina Chuhrova who also took part in preparing the report said she had 10 patients she caned regularly and though initially “they didn’t like it, when they started to feel the benefits they kept asking for more.”

The Russian team says they are now charging for the caning sessions and are getting over U.S.$ 100 per patient for a standard treatment.

  I propose that a spanking a day will keep the doctor away.  Hmmm, maybe I need to open the first spanking therapy clinic wink

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Thursday, May 15, 2008

LADIES REMEMBER — SAFETY FIRST!!!!!

Safety First!

By: SEXY_CRUISER

Everyone has heard at least one horror story. Someone got burned, someone got electrocuted, someone got killed; those stories have been around forever.
For those who have common sense, this little safety lecture is just a review of what you already know. But for the rest of you, whether your ignorance comes from simply being new to the scene or because you just simply didn’t think of it, I suggest that you bookmark this one for future reference.
This may well be fodder for future installments of specific activities, so be patient.

KNOW YOUR PARTNER’S LIMITS
I’m addressing this to both Dom/me and sub. EVERYONE has limits, and you should well know them.

USE YOUR BRAIN!
Yes, I know that this is all for fun, but using your head a bit will prevent problems later. “An ounce of prevention is worth an ounce of cure” is a very relevant statement here. Think about the scene before you play it, and take necessary measures to ensure safety for all participants.

HAVE THE RIGHT EQUIPMENT
Time and again, accidents happen because someone was using the wrong tool(s) for the job. Folks, I realize fishing line is superbly strong, but do NOT suspend anyone with it. If you need to ask why, then it is probably best that you not bother with this lifestyle and instead head over to your local Bass Pro.

LISTEN
Tops, this one is mostly for You. Have both a verbal and non-verbal means of communicating a safe word. Many subs love to moan and cry and whimper and scream during play, but your safe word(s) should be completely unique or something everyone around you knows, such as RED.
In the event that your lovely is all tied up and gagged, make sure he or she can indicate non-verbally a safe word. For example, I have two ways of allowing a non-verbal red: If the boy has nothing in his hands, or if his hands are bound, he is to “tap out” by either slapping the furniture twice for yellow and thrice for red, or I have a cowbell which he is to drop for a red.
ALWAYS be able to hear your sub, even if it means not playing somewhere that’s too loud due to conversation or music or both.

PAY ATTENTION
This is along the same lines as listening, however, this includes knowing your surroundings. Know where you are, where doors are, who is present and where they are. Pay attention to what you’re doing as well as to what others are doing. You can control your actions; you can’t control everyone else’s.

DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME
This should be a no-brainer, but it bears repeating. Homestyle BDSM is great fun, but if you’re trying something new, then do it with someone else around. This will help you to not only focus more on the activity but to learn from the other person if that person is experienced in what you’re doing.
Having an extra, (or two), allows for you to not have to focus on many outside distractions, as the extra(s) will be watching for you. Don’t ever discount a good extra.

EVERY top should have a good knowledge of basic first aid treatment. It’s also a good idea to be certified in CPR. Accidents do happen, and if you’re not able to deal with them, accidents can escalate swiftly into emergencies.

KEEP A PHONE NEARBY
Keep it in arm’s reach while you play in case you need to call for help. If the submissive is to be left alone, (usually not a good idea in the first place), then he or she needs to be able to reach the phone if necessary.

KEEP A FIRST AID KIT HANDY
Make sure it’s completely stocked and in the same room, (in arm’s reach for extreme play sessions such as blades or needles). Make sure this kit also contains Pedialyte or Gatorade, Pedialyte preferred as the electrolytes absorb more quickly.
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Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Ma’am are you a Sado-Masochist?
BDSM is….?

BDSM, in literal terms, is an acronym which usually stands for something along the lines of, “Bondage, Domination,
   Sado-Masochism.”
 I’ve heard a few differences, but this seems to be the most readily accepted.

But for the millions of people who love the darker side of life, BDSM is a lifestyle. Just like any other lifestyle, it is a niche where we have found comfort and enjoyment just being ourselves.

Does this mean that we’re all a bunch of perverts?
 Well yes, it does.
But consider this: we’re all perverts, whether or not we’re into BDSM.

 You’re a pervert, I’m a pervert, we’re all perverts.
  How can that be?


Well, what’s your definition of pervert? It’s probably different from Mine, just as Mine is going to be at least a little bit different than someone else’s. Since no one has the same definition, we’re all perverts.
BDSM isn’t just a sexual thing, though many times our sex lives are greatly enhanced by our lifestyle. BDSM, when seen as a lifestyle, isn’t just about bumping uglies. It’s about living the way we want to live, despite the rigors of society’s acceptance or disapproval. It’s about being who we are, just like any other culture or lifestyle.

Some people are natural submissives, feeling happy and free when bound by the whim and will of a naturally Dominant person. That’s their comfort zone; that’s their particular lifestyle.

Some of Us are naturally Dominant and enjoy “owning” and training submissives. Still others aren’t really submissive or dominant, but like to play on both sides. And yet others don’t really care one way or another, but have their own delightful fetishes that get their gears turning.

It’s all about being what you want to be. It’s turning your fantasy into your reality by giving up the fear of society’s disapproval. It’s about being you, no matter how kinky or freaky you really are inside.

Now, what’s the difference between a Dominant and a top?  They are not mutually exclusive, however they are terms that are seen as describing the same thing, (most often, erroneously).

A top hearkens to someone who likes to give pain or pleasure in BDSM scene play. 
 Most Dominants are indeed tops, however not all tops are Dominants.  Confused yet?  Try this:  a Dominant is Someone who is naturally in control and who enjoys being such.  He or She takes control not only of a situation but most often controls a submissive as well. 

A submissive gets great pleasure from serving and being controlled.  He or she may be a bottom, (one who enjoys being topped), which may mean that he or she is a masochist, (one who enjoys receiving pain).


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