Sunday, September 6, 2009

Who are you,LADIES, Domme or Sub?

Who are you,LADIES, Domme or Sub?

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Dominant (BDSM)
In human sexual behavior, a dominant is one who enjoys performing any of a variety of BDSM practices upon a submissive; or one who holds a dominant position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (DS). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for dominance or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A male dominant is often called a dom; a female, a domme or dominatrix.

The main difference between a dominant and a top is that the dominant ostensibly does not follow instructions, although s/he is limited by what the submissive is willing to do.

There are some indications that preference in DS activities follows a ‘compensatory’ pattern, with people who have much power and responsibility in real life often preferring a submissive role; no hard scientific data to either confirm or reject this hypothesis seem to exist, however.

There are also indications that submissives substantially outnumber dominants, in both males and females. Professional dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for those unable to find a compatible partner for this activity.

Submissive (BDSM)
In human sexual behavior, a submissive is one who enjoys having any of a variety of BDSM practices performed upon them by a “Dominant”; or one who holds a submissive position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (Ds or D/s). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for submission or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A submissive is also referred to as a ’sub’, where the dominant in a D/s relationship is the ‘Dom.’

The main difference between a submissive and a bottom is that the submissive ostensibly does not give instructions, although s/he does set limits on what the Dominant can do.

There are also indications that submissives substantially outnumber Dominants[citation needed], in both males and females. Professional Dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for those unable to find a compatible partner for this activity.

In many BDSM communities, there is a distinction between a submissive and a slave. In this context, a slave’s goal is surrender and obedience. In contrast, a submissive tends to expect some gratification in return for his or her submission.

Resource: Wikipedia

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Sunday, May 31, 2009

Ladies! Be Aware Of the Risk Of Date Rape Drugs…

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Thursday, May 21, 2009

Spanking, sex, and endorphins

Spanking, sex, and endorphins

Endorphins play an important role when dealing with spanking at the harder levels.  Let’s take a quick look at what endorphins are and then we will explore the role they play in spanking.  Endorphins are neurotransmitters found in the brain that have pain relieving properties similar to morphine.  Endorphins interact with opiate receptor neurons in the brain and essentially block pain signals sent to the brain by the nervous system.  While research on the topic is still relatively new, studies are showing that endorphins are very beneficial to our bodies.  Recent studies suggest that, among other things, endorphins enhance the immune system, relieve pain, reduce stress, as well counter some of the effects of the aging process. 

Most of us are most familiar with the production of endorphins as a result of heavy exercise, or as the result of physical pain.  The body produces endorphins at high levels in more situations than just these.  Sexual activity produces endorphins and research shows that over the course of a sexual encounter endorphin levels can increase as much as 200%.  It has been suggested that the euphoric feelings that one experiences after sex are the result of high levels of endorphins running through the body.  There are also foods that are tied with the production of endorphins.  Eating hot chili peppers or chocolate can result in the release of endorphins.  This helps to explain why some people eat chocolate during times of stress and find it to be a comfort food.  While released in smaller amounts than during sex, consuming chocolate can produce enough endorphins to create a euphoric feeling.

Endorphins play an important role in spanking and may further explain why those that are not really into spanking find pleasure in having their bottom smacked during sex.  As illustrated above, the production of endorphins can lead to a euphoric feeling, and a little pain mixed in with sex can go a long way to increase the pleasure.  According to Producers of spanking videos, endorphins play a very important role in what we do.  For the models that we spank that are really into it, being sexually turned on can carry them through the harder scenes we do.  Models that are not into it do not have the benefits of sexual excitement in a scene and it takes endorphins to allow them to carry on past their limits. We are often asked how we are able to find so many young and beautiful models that will take such a hard spanking.  I think one of the main reasons is that we are good at what we do and can guide just about anyone through a very hard scene.  We have learned to use the concept of endorphins to our advantage.  We always start each day slowly and work a model into the harder scenes.  Even a moderate spanking, applied to someone’s bottom who does not like it, will produce endorphins.  When it comes time to do a harder scene, the nervous system is already slightly prepared for what is to come.  In addition, we have learned to recognize when the body steps things up and begins producing endorphins at very high levels.  It takes practice and knowing the person you are spanking, but it is possible to visibly see the signs that let you know that endorphins are kicking in to high gear.  You will often see scenes in which the model struggles hard for the first half, and even though the spanking increases in intensity, she fights the whole process less towards the end.  This is a result of her body finding a way to cope with the pain by producing endorphins.  By recognizing when this happens, we can take a model much farther than she really expected to be able to go.  Endorphins are also responsible for the fact that immediately after an intense spanking, people report that their bottoms do not hurt as much as they expected.  The surprise comes a couple of hours later when they realize that they are very sore, much more so than they expected.  Once the body reduces its level of endorphin production, the true soreness from the spanking is fully realized.

There is still a lot of research to be done in this area, but there is enough of it out there currently to support what I have said.  As a spanker, or a spankee, you can learn to use endorphins to your advantage.  There are many people that have the desire to receive a hard spanking, but find that they can not tolerate anything more than a light spanking.  This is about more than just pain tolerance; it is about being properly guided through a scene that increases in intensity.  Endorphins are the reason that people can take a harder spanking after a warm-up.  I feel confident that I can take anyone into spanking, regardless of their pain tolerance, to a level of intensity that they had no concept that they could achieve.  I have had seen models s that at the beginning, could barely make it through a handspanking, that are now able to take a wooden paddle on their bare ass.  Nothing happened to increase their pain tolerance, we simply got to know them better and as a result were better able to read their body language to see when the harder spanking could begin.  I think many spanking producers short themselves in a big way with model selection.  They hire anyone cute and then just spank the hell out of them.  The ones that survive are hired again, the ones that don’t are sent packing.  They do not take the time to learn how to guide someone to the level of intensity their audience wants to see.  They simply end up with models who can naturally deal with a lot of pain.  If they would learn more about endorphins and use it to their advantage, they would quickly find the size of their model pool increasing by 500%. 

I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest something that I have never seen mentioned before.  First let’s look at some of the current findings in the area of endorphin research.  It has been found that endorphins:

- enhance the immune system
- relieve pain
- reduce stress
- counter some of the effects of the aging process
- increase the release of sexual hormones
- cause a euphoric feeling

Now if there was a pill that could do all of the above things, I am pretty sure that doctors would prescribe it to just about everyone.  You do not need a pill, you already have the prescription (your ass) and you just need to have it filled (a spanking).  If you want to better fight off illness, better deal with pain, reduce the stress of your daily life, look and feel younger, increase your sexual drive, and find a natural high without drugs or alcohol, then spanking is the cure.

Russian scientists at the Novosibirsk Institute of Medicine are claiming a beating on the naked buttocks with a cane is the perfect way to cure everything from depression to alcoholism.
The researchers say caning releases endorphins, the body’s natural ‘happy chemicals’, and that leads to feelings of euphoria, a reduction of appetite, the release of sex hormones and an enhancement of the immune response, and they have a similar effect on pain as drugs such as morphine and codeine, but do not lead to addiction or dependence.

Biologist Dr Sergei Speransky who led the research claims corporal punishment, similar to that doled out regularly in British schools in the last century, helps people overcome addiction and depression. He confirms he is not a sadist even though he recommends caning and says the treatment works. A standard treatment course entails 30 sessions with 60 of the best, delivered on the buttocks by a person of average build.

Dr Marina Chuhrova who also took part in preparing the report said she had 10 patients she caned regularly and though initially “they didn’t like it, when they started to feel the benefits they kept asking for more.”

The Russian team says they are now charging for the caning sessions and are getting over U.S.$ 100 per patient for a standard treatment.

  I propose that a spanking a day will keep the doctor away.  Hmmm, maybe I need to open the first spanking therapy clinic wink

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Monday, April 13, 2009

Ladies , its an Eater Sunday School Lesson just for you …


It Easter Time, and time for an Easter Sunday School Lesson, just for you ladies, and for more infomation  on Easter go to other posting on Easter … Thank you ladies for Coming to Sunday School.
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Thursday, March 12, 2009

Women Spanking Men - Giving Him His First Spanking!

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Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Is Analingus Safe?

Is Analingus Safe?

 

Let’s face it: no matter how pink, puckered, squeaky clean, and appealing your partner’s asshole is, you know what comes out of it. And you’re putting your tongue up there. How healthy can that be? It’s natural to be concerned about contracting an infection or disease through oral-to-anal contact. For answers about the risks associated with analingus (also called eating ass, rimming, or tossing salad), we went straight to the horse’s mouth — the Centers for Disease Control (CDC).

STDs and More

The intestinal tract is filled with bacteria that are part of the digestive process; these do not pose any health threat. However, eating ass will expose you to any bad germs or infections harbored in your partner’s intestinal tract or anal area. The CDC warns that “rimming carries a risk of transmission of STDs including hepatitis A. There is also risk of intestinal parasites, like cryptosporidiosis.”

In addition, the CDC cautions that “immunocompromised persons are suggested to avoid performing this activity.” So if you aren’t in good health and have an immune deficiency (say from AIDS or chemotherapy), eating ass could put you at serious risk.

Here’s a rundown of some of the diseases you could be exposed to when eating ass:

  • Hepatitis A: Hepatitis A is a virus spread through oral contact with the fecal matter of an infected person. It affects the liver and causes symptoms such as jaundice, fatigue, and nausea. It is not a chronic infection, unlike hepatitis C. Hepatitis A can be prevented with a vaccine given before or shortly after exposure.
     
  • E. coli: This is a bacterial infection spread through oral contact with the fecal matter of an infected person. Its symptoms include diarrhea, vomiting, and intestinal bleeding.
     
  • Intestinal parasites: These are microbial organisms that cause intestinal diseases including cryptosporidiosis, dysentery, and giardiasis. Symptoms include diarrhea, fever, and stomach pain. Again, these are spread through oral contact with the fecal matter of an infected person.
     
  • Bacterial infections: If a person contracts food poisoning, the bacteria that causes it, say salmonella for example, will be shed in their feces and could be transmitted through oral-anal contact. Symptoms include diarrhea and vomiting.
     
  • Other STDs: If the receiving partner has a rectal gonorrhea infection, it could be contracted by the active partner; gonorrhea can infect the mouth and throat. This means that theoretically a person with an oral gonorrhea infection could transmit it to the ass that they’re eating. Other STDs that can be transmitted through oral-anal contact include syphilis and herpes, if either partner has an active lesion in their mouth or anal area.

HIV Risk?

Finally some good news: your chances of being infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, are pretty low while eating ass. The CDC reports that the HIV virus is not found in feces itself. And the amount of HIV that can be present in saliva is too small to infect another person, making mouth-to-ass infection unlikely. According to the CDC, “There would not be a risk of HIV transmission unless blood was also transmitted between partners (such as if the performing partner was infected and had blood in his mouth).” Or if the recipient was bleeding from the ass and the active partner had an open cut or sore in his or her mouth.

Playing It Safe

You can protect against transmission of diseases by using a barrier during analingus. You can use a latex dental dam, or make a barrier by cutting the end off an unlubricated condom and then slitting it lengthwise. Many people also use plastic wrap; although it hasn’t been scientifically tested as a disease barrier, it does prevent the transmission of body fluids. For extra sensation, place a dab of lubricant on the side of the barrier that will go against your partner’s ass. Hold the barrier in place firmly, and place your tongue against it to lick and probe their asshole.

The Bottom Line

If both you and your partner are healthy, your risk of contracting a disease through analingus is probably pretty low. However, there is always some risk in oral-anal contact, and there are a number of diseases that can be transmitted through this route. You can make the act of eating ass safer by using a barrier between your mouth and your partner’s asshole.

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Sunday, October 26, 2008

Sex Workers Outreach Project:National March for Sex Workers Rights

 

International day to end violence against sex workers.

(cross-posted from Radical Vixen)

From Sex Workers Outreach Project:
National March for Sex Workers Rights
Dec. 17, 2008
Meet at Franklin Square (14st NW & Eye ST NW) near
 McPherson Square Station for rally and speeches.
March Gathers at noon.
March ends at The White House (1600 Pennsylvania AVE)
 about 3 blocks away.

Join the Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP-USA) as
 we march on Washington to demand rights for all sex workers!
On Wednesday, December 17, 2008, advocates from across the
 nation will converge to mark the International Day to End Violence
Against Sex Workers
. Together, we will take a stand for justice, dignity,
and the freedom to do sex work safely and in dignity. We are calling
for an end to the unjust laws, policing, shaming and stigma that oppress
 our communities and make us targets for violence. At this vibrant event,
 we will both honor the lives lost in 2008 and celebrate our vital movement.
Some housing is available for out-of-towners - consider staying on to attend
 our big party that weekend. On Dec. 17th, SWOP-USA and its allies in
harm reduction and social justice welcome your support as we march for
sex workers rights!

This is a permitted event (pending approval). For more information,
or to endorse this event, contact:
877-776-2004 x 1
dec17atswopusadotorg

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Friday, September 5, 2008

Switches in BDSM

                                              
                                  Switches in BDSM
 
In the field of human sexuality, a switch is someone who chooses to change from one sexual role to another; the act of doing so is called switching.

In BDSM, a switch is someone who participates in BDSM activities sometimes as a top and other times as a bottom or (in the case of domination and submission) sometimes as a dominant and other times as a submissive. Switches are very common; partners may switch roles based on mood, desire, or to allow each partner to experience their preferred activity

 For example, a switch may be in a relationship with someone of the same primary BDSM orientation (e.g., two dominants), so switching provides each partner with an opportunity to realize his or her BDSM needs. It is also common for people to switch with different partners, such as when a person acts exclusively as a top with one partner and exclusively as a bottom with another. The act of “switching” may also refer to a spontaneous reversal of roles, initiated by the bottom, who then takes control. A person who engages in self-bondage can be viewed as taking both roles simultaneously.

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Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Eastern Europe Easter Redux

This is a great fine in Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, on the decline in the Czech tradition of Easter fertility whippings and the resulting decline in the sale of pomlázkys, the traditional braided willow rods used for the whippings. We read from The Prague Post:

The Prague Post reports on Tradition takes a whipping

Based on shopkeepers’ reports, there may not be much pomlázka whipping going on this year.

Or maybe it’s just the bad weather putting a damper on sales of the braided willow sticks, according to kiosk proprietors selling them at Easter markets in Old Town Square and Wenceslas Square. … The pagan fertility rite of whipping women to keep them fertile and beautiful on Easter Monday actually dates to the Middle Ages. Boys and men go from house to house reciting Easter rhymes to get treats such as chocolate, eggs and shots of slivovice. …

Easter Monday

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Easter Monday is the day after Easter Sunday and is celebrated as a holiday in some largely Christian cultures, especially Roman Catholic cultures. Easter Monday in the Roman Catholic liturgical calendar is the second day of the octave of Easter Week. In the Eastern Catholic Byzantine Rite and the Eastern Orthodox Church, Easter Monday is called Bright Monday. In Poland and parts of the United States, Easter Monday is called Dyngus Day.

Dyngus Day or Wet Monday (Polish Śmigus-dyngus or Lany Poniedziałek) is the name for Easter Monday in Poland. In the Czech Republic it is called Velikonoční pondělí or Pomlázka. Both countries practice a unique custom on this day.

In Poland, traditionally, early in the morning boys awake girls by pouring a bucket of water on their head and striking them about the legs with long thin twigs or switches made from willow, birch or decorated tree branches (palmy wielkanocne); however, the earliest documented[citation needed] records of Dyngus Day in Poland are from the 15th century, almost half a millennium after Poland adopted Christianity.

Benedykt Chmielowski in Nowe Ateny cite after “Carolo Berthold” that this ritual was already in custom in 750, 250 years before Poland officially adopted Christianity.

One theory is that Dyngus originates from the baptism on Easter Monday of Mieszko I (Duke of the Polans, c. 935 - 992) in 966 AD, uniting all of Poland under the banner of Christianity. Dualism and “twins” are featured in Slavic pre-Christian paganism. Dyngus and Śmigus were twin pagan gods; the former representing water and the ‘moist’ earth (Dyngus from dyn gus - thin soup or dingen - nature) and the later, representing thunder and lightning (Smigus from Śmigać or to making a whooshing sound). In this theory, the water tradition is the transformation of the pagan water god into the Christian baptism. The custom of pouring water was an ancient spring rite of cleansing, purification, and fertility. It is alleged that the pagan Poles bickered with Nature/Dyngus by means of pouring water and switching with willows to make themselves pure and worthy of the coming year. Others have suggested that the striking tradition is the transformation of the ritual “slap” of Christian confirmation. However, still others suggest that the Smigus tradition is actually simply a youthful recapitulation of a Good Friday Polish tradition, in which parents wake their children with switches from twigs, whispering the words of a Lent prayer “the wounds of God” or “God is wounded” -’bozerani.

Early in the Colombian evolution of the tradition, the Dyngus custom was clearly differentiated from Śmigus: Dyngus was the exchange of gifts (usually eggs, often decorated like pisankas), under the threat of water splashing if one party did not have any eggs ready, while Śmigus referred to the striking.

Later the focus shifted to the courting aspect of the ritual, and young unmarried girls were the only acceptable targets. A boy would sneak into the bedroom of the girl he fancied and awaken her by drenching her with multiple buckets of water. Politics played an important role in proceedings, and often the boy would get access to the house only by arrangement with the girl’s mother.

Throughout the day, girls would find themselves the victims of drenchings and leg-whippings, and a daughter who was not targeted for such activities was generally considered to be beznadziejna (hopeless) in this very coupling-oriented environment.

Most recently, the tradition has changed to become fully water-focused, and the Śmigus part is almost forgotten. It is quite common for girls to attack boys just as fiercely as the boys traditionally attacked the girls. With much of Poland’s population residing in tall apartment buildings, high balconies are favorite hiding places for young people who gleefully empty full buckets of water onto randomly selected passers-by.

Another related custom, unique to Poland is that of sprinkling bowls (garce) of ashes on people (starts men on women) or houses, celebrated a few weeks earlier at the “półpoście.” This custom is almost forgotten, but still practiced on the area around borders of Mazuria and Masovia.

Handmade whip decorated with ribbons called pomlázka

Handmade whip decorated with ribbons called pomlázka

In Slovakia and the Czech Republic, traditionally, early in the morning, boys awake girls by pouring a bucket of water on their head. This practice is possibly connected to a pre-Christian, pagan fertility rite, that seems originated from the similar older customs as the Ancient Roman Lupercalia.

Also, splashing water, and a special handmade whip decorated with ribbons called pomlázka (Slovak: korbáč) is used on females in the morning. The boys usually accompany the whipping with a special Easter carol and then are given a decorated hard-boiled egg (a ribbon, or possibly a snifter of liquor). The girls would reward the boys who sprinkle with coins or Easter eggs. In the afternoon, females can douse males with cold water. In some other parts of Slovakia boys use water or perfume to splash the girls and then girls whip boys on Tuesday.

Easter eggs

Easter eggs

For Easter Monday in Hungary, perfume or perfumed-water is used. The girls would reward the boys who sprinkle with coins or Easter eggs.

Along with Good Friday, Easter Monday is a public holiday in historically-Protestant countries such as Germany, Denmark, Sweden and certain British Commonwealth countries such as Australia. Good Friday and Easter Monday are Bank Holidays in the United Kingdom and in Canada, making a four-day weekend.

Though not largely observed in the United States, the day remains informally observed in some areas such as the state of North Dakota, and some cities in New York, Michigan, and Indiana. Easter Monday was a public holiday in North Carolina from 1935 to 1987.

Traditionally Polish areas of the country such as Chicago observe Easter Monday as Dyngus Day. In the United States, Dyngus Day celebrations are widespread and popular in Buffalo, New York, Wyandotte, Michigan, Hamtramck, Michigan, La Porte and South Bend, Indiana. Wet Monday is also celebrated at Jonathan Edwards College, one of the residential colleges at Yale University, when each year the freshman class storms the college with water weapons, where upperclassmen are ready to defend the college and ensure no one goes home dry.

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Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Spanking 101: The Spanking Hour

Spanking 101: The Spanking Hour


Ladies! Sixty (60) solid minutes of deliberate spanking would be senseless overkill. Even in a punishment scenario, any lesson can be taught in less time. Beyond a certain point, the spankee’s bottom becomes numb and additional spanking serves no purpose.

However, I can easily imagine an hour long spanking because I have participated in several sessions. I draw an analogy to spending an hour in bed making love. That wouldn’t, or more likely couldn’t, consist of continuous intercourse. There would also have to be kissing and fondling and talking and massaging and laughing and so forth. So it is with the one hour spanking.

It can be great fun to make your spankings session last  an hour. Here are twenty five suggestions to enrich your spanking adventures which I included in my ONE HOUR SPANKING SESSIONS:

  1. Try some role play scenarios and let your fantasies run wild
  2. Use a vibrator, and not necessarily only in the usual spots
  3. Take a break for oral sex
  4. Test a series of implements and note your likes and dislikes
  5. Caress someplace that feels really good
  6. Change positions several times
  7. Whisper a sexy secret desire
  8. Try a butt plug
  9. Put on some appropriate mood music and spank to the beat
  10. Talk about the spanking
  11. Generously apply some scented oil and massage it in
  12. Munch on chocolate-covered strawberries
  13. Light incense
  14. Kiss beneath the sheets
  15. Position mirrors so you can both watch
  16. Try a little light bondage, just for fun
  17. Take a shower together
  18. Instead of counting up the swats, try counting down
  19. Show off your little known talent
  20. Remove protective clothing one layer at a time
  21. Play guess that implement
  22. Light candles and turn off the lights
  23. Hold a private spanko fashion show
  24. Wet the target using a damp washcloth
  25. Make passionate love, EXTRA —  FOR AN ADDITIONAL FEE

Your technique needn’t be anything that requires elaborate preparation. Sometimes, I will position a SPANKEE over my lap while we are on the couch and watching television. The goal is to make each experience a little bit different and little bit special.

It’s really not that hard to spend an hour spanking, and if you do, I think you’ll agree that it was an hour well spent!

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Sunday, January 27, 2008

Ladies, Why should you do
the NEGOTIATION,
before doing anything!

Introduction to Negotiations


By: Sir Sexy Cruiser

 

I have received E-mails requesting that I discuss many different subjects.
Out of all the E-mails that I have received, I believe this is one of the most important and crucial subject so far.

The E-mail that really made me want to address this immediately was from a bottom/sub that will remain nameless for now. The letter stated more or less that this particular girl and her Top/Dom were not clear on exactly how negotiations worked, what to talk about, how in depth to go, etc.

Therefore, they’re just winging it!
 They’re figuring it out as they go! What’s wrong with this picture? What part of this is safe or sane?

The first thing to address here is the reason for negotiations.

Why do many of us perform negotiations in the first place? My kink is not your kink, right?
Perhaps My wild turn-on involving tying up a girl and throwing her in a closet might send my perspective bottom into a nightmarish flashback of when her abusive stepfather locked her in closets when she was a little girl.
How do I know that tying her up and throwing her in a closet would be a real mood killer.

How about, oh I don’t know . . . Negotiations?

The next thing to address is just plain old fashioned communication.
Its how all relationships work?
Communication is the figurative KY in our relationships that keeps the friction down.

That was how it was for our grandparents and their grandparents, and that is how it has always been. How else am I supposed to know what my perspective bottom’s long time fantasy is to be the subject of a fantasy rape? I’m supposed to read her mind and instantly know this while I’m trying to talk her into playing fire and ice, right?

Here’s the second reason for negotiations.

How about “trust”? Is that a good reason? We as Tops and Doms want our bottoms and subs to trust us enough to do all sorts of things to them that might otherwise jeopardize their safety and well being. Heck, that’s part of the kick of the whole thing, isn’t it? It’s a really cool feeling when someone trusts us enough to put their lives in our hands!

How can they trust us, if we don’t know how to keep from breaking that trust?
Who wants to scene on egg shells, afraid that the next move might be what sets off a total 180?
And, she switch roles and now the male top is being trash by the once bottoms/sub turns into a Top/Dom … with  not performing negotiations in the first place?

Here’s how negotiations work in a nutshell, sit down and talk about turn-ons and turn-offs before engaging in play. That’s about it.

If you want to know how I perform negotiations, here it is. I meet the perspective bottom/sub/slave. We spend at least a day getting to know each other, a bit.
We spend at least another day going over a negotiation form. The perspective bottom/sub/slave fills it out, I read it with the perspective bottom/sub/slave several times. I spend the next 2 days studying the negotiation form and periodically asking specifics. After that I will play with her and not before then. Maybe I go too in-depth, perhaps.

However, I can say this, my slave trusts me entirely with her life. I would rather err on the side of caution.
In BDSM, if there is no negotiation, ladies and you are the top/Dom… and with no trust for the bottom/sub …you maybe charged with Date Rape… So ladies Please negotiation.

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Monday, August 20, 2007

Anal SEX can be safe, but you need to take precautions, LADIES.

 

Anal sex can be safe, but you need to take precautions.

Rule number one: Anything that touches the anus shouldn’t be touching anything else. Never ever take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly.

You also need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases.  AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis, and gonorrhea can all be transmitted through anal sex. You simply shouldn’t be having anal sex without a condom; it’s not worth the risk to either partner.

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