They’re the three little words millions of lonely hearts long to hear. Words that imply a great deal of mutual trust, caring, and comfort. Words that could change your love life forever …

You ladies saying, “Let’s do anal.”

Experts estimate one in four straight couples have had anal sex, arguably making it the most popular of sexual taboos. Yet while many people are at the very least curious enough to try it, few go about it the right way. The result? They have a negative experience, and never do it again.

In order to enjoy anal sex, couples need to have some idea of what they’re doing, and to be able to communicate with each other. Of course, talking frankly about a ding-dong in a yoo-hoo can be tough. “Our asses carry with them so much cultural baggage,” says Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women. “Most of us are taught at a young age that our butts are dirty, that they shouldn’t be shared with others, that they are not a source of pleasure—all of which aren’t true.”

Despite that (or perhaps because of it), the idea of anal sex is often a turn-on. Men like the promise of tightness and friction, and both partners can appreciate the allure of unique physical sensations coupled with domination/submission. Think those qualities make it deviant?

Maybe so, but they also make it intensely intimate. As porn star Jenna Jameson wrote of anal sex in her 2004 autobiography, “I’ve only given that up to three men, all of whom I really loved. Doing it on camera would be compromising myself.”

There’s no “right” way to begin exploring, but it’s probably wise to start with something less ambitious than a penis. Richard and Lola* had been together for four months when he put his hand on her butt during sex. “I realized I really wanted to put my finger in her ass, but I was hesitant because we’d never done that before,” says Richard, a 34-year-old physicist in San Francisco. “Without a word, she grabbed my hand and put it there for me. It was amazing.”

Later, in the middle of particularly intense sex, an overzealous Richard aimed himself a bit too far south. He realized his mistake and pulled away, but Lola pulled him back. They proceeded to have first-time, undiscussed anal sex without lube—and loved it.

“I’ve since discovered that’s not a good way to do it,” says Lola, 32, a lawyer. “But that night I had the most powerful orgasm of my life. It’s one of the hottest things you can do, but you definitely have to be in the mood. Someone can’t just spring it on you.”

Outside of MTV shows and comedies, most people aren’t eager to talk about their butts—especially with their partners. But it doesn’t need to be a face-reddening experience. “If you and your partner speak openly and directly about sex, then be open and direct about your anal desires,” Taormino says. “If you’re unsure about how your partner may respond, bring it up in an indirect way.”

When you decide to try it out, go very slowly. Most couples agree that anal sex only works when both people are very turned on, so spend time building up to it doing whatever gets you going—oral sex, vaginal sex, watching old episodes of Hart to Hart. And remember what Mother told you: Anything you stick up a butt should be generously coated with a heavy water-based lube like Astroglide Gel or Maximus.

That can’t be stressed enough. Unlike the vagina and much like the internal combustion engine, the anus is not self-lubricating. Insufficiently lubed, you’re susceptible to tiny internal tears, which can cause pain and infection, and encourage the spread of STDs. But that doesn’t mean anal sex is inherently more dangerous. As long as you use a condom and there’s enough lube, you’ll be reasonably safe. To avoid nasty bacterial infections, remember that it’s like stroking a porcupine: You can go front to back, but never back to front.

Sex toys can augment the experience. Nonporous, easy-to-clean silicone is the best material for butt plugs, vibrators, or dildos; a flared base will prevent an awkward trip to the ER for, uh, extraction. “We started with a small butt plug we got online,” says Heather, a 38-year-old New York City nonprofit executive who convinced her husband—yes, he was the wary one—to try anal. “Then we moved on to sex, and it was totally unique. I have to do it in a place where no one else is around because I’m worried about people hearing me—I’m always a lot louder.”

No single position is ideal, but the receiver should be in control. Missionary works; woman-on-top lets her control the depth of penetration; and spooning allows the man a perfect angle. Doggie-style provides great G-spot stimulation, with the woman either on all fours or with her head on the bed and butt in the air (yogis call it “Foraging Anteater Pose”). To make sure the man doesn’t thrust too deep, he should enter, stop, and wait for her to get used to the feeling.
Or is it the other way around?
“The ass is the most democratic orifice—we all have one,” Taormino begins ominously. “What lots of men don’t realize is just how good it can feel for them, because the prostate gland can be directly stimulated. In fact, every man should get sodomized in the ass at least once before he dies.”

Maybe this isn’t an idea everyone is totally comfortable with, but turnabout is fair anal play.

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*Names in this story have been changed.

Dominant (BDSM)
In human sexual behavior, a dominant is one who enjoys performing any of a variety of BDSM practices upon a submissive; or one who holds a dominant position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (DS). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for dominance or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A male dominant is often called a dom; a female, a domme or dominatrix.

The main difference between a dominant and a top is that the dominant ostensibly does not follow instructions, although s/he is limited by what the submissive is willing to do.

There are some indications that preference in DS activities follows a ‘compensatory’ pattern, with people who have much power and responsibility in real life often preferring a submissive role; no hard scientific data to either confirm or reject this hypothesis seem to exist, however.

There are also indications that submissives substantially outnumber dominants, in both males and females. Professional dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for those unable to find a compatible partner for this activity.

Submissive (BDSM)
In human sexual behavior, a submissive is one who enjoys having any of a variety of BDSM practices performed upon them by a “Dominant”; or one who holds a submissive position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (Ds or D/s). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for submission or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A submissive is also referred to as a ’sub’, where the dominant in a D/s relationship is the ‘Dom.’

The main difference between a submissive and a bottom is that the submissive ostensibly does not give instructions, although s/he does set limits on what the Dominant can do.

There are also indications that submissives substantially outnumber Dominants[citation needed], in both males and females. Professional Dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for those unable to find a compatible partner for this activity.

In many BDSM communities, there is a distinction between a submissive and a slave. In this context, a slave’s goal is surrender and obedience. In contrast, a submissive tends to expect some gratification in return for his or her submission.

Resource: Wikipedia

Basic Slave Positions and Hand Signals

Author Unknown/Domina (this means that I got the positions from various sources (usually emailed to me), modified them, discarded some, added a couple that I like and designed hand signals for some of them.  several people asked me to post a set of basic positions, and I’d like to thank everyone who sent me positions and pictures.   

BASIC SERVICE POSITIONS: Required for all slaves

Some positions may be inappropriate for your style of domination, or you might wish to use a variation or more positions than are listed here. We all do it differently. Certainly, I don’t use all of these, but they did look interesting.  (Click on thumbnails for a larger picture)

INSPECTIONS

	Auction	AUCTION– Similar to Inspect, this position is used for auctioning off slaves. The slave is naked, legs spread a shoulder width apart, arms out straight at an angle, hands away from the body, palms up. Eyes lowered.  Chin up.  This position allows unobstructed view of a slave’s attributes. Voice Command–None Hand Signal–None
	Inspect	INSPECT– This position the basic for inspecting the slave.  The slave, usually naked,  stands at attention, legs spread a shoulder width apart, hands clasped behind the head, right over left, back slightly arched. The arch accentuates the breast and genitals.   I have them do this flat footed, but if you wish to make it more difficult, have them stand on tiptoe. In this position the slave is fully accessible. He/she can be viewed in an unobstructed manner, or any part may be inspected at close range or touched. This is also a good position for inspection of a slave by others.  Voice Command–Inspect Hand Signal–Clap
	Examine	EXAMINE–Slave lies on back, hands at sides, palms facing upward. Legs are spread wide open. This could be for a medical examination or for genitorture.  Useful position.    Required when commanded. Voice Command–Examine Hand Signal–Hand parallel to floor moved sharply from left to right
	Flip Side	FLIP SIDE–facedown, head turned to right, hands at sides, palms facing upward. Legs are spread wide open.  The converse to Examine.  Useful for humiliation or anal play/torture. Required when commanded. Voice Command-Over Hand Signal–fist moved from left to right
	Present	PRESENT — slave bends over, spread cheeks of ass with hands exposing the anus to the Owner.  Useful for humiliation or anal use. Voice Command–Present Hand Signal–Turning motion with fist

                                             BASIC SERVICE POSITIONS

	Collaring	COLLARING– slave kneels up at the Owner’s feet and knees a shoulder width apart, back straight, with arms behind back, one wrist grasping the other, and head and eyes lowered. Required when commanded or at the beginning of a session for visiting slaves.  An alternative is to have him/her hold back their hair with the right hand for ease of collaring. Voice Command–Collar Hand Signal–Right hand to throat
	Standard	STANDARD–Basic position of a slave. The slave is kneeling, legs spread, feet together, back straight, sitting back on heels, hands on knees - palms up. The slave keeps his/her chin up but eyes are always downcast. This is a punishment position and one that can be uncomfortable for the slave after a short while. This is a nice position for lecturing the slave on his/her misdoings. (variation–slave keeps legs together sitting back on heels.  I prefer this when company is present.  I have a friend who reduced a girl almost to tears by insisting that her toes and knees be perfectly aligned in each position and then made her change positions rapidly.) Voice Command–Standard Hand Signal–Finger Snap
	Instruct	INSTRUCT– In this position the slave sits before his/her owner, legs spread, hands clasped behind his/her back. The slave’s legs are bent, slave sitting back on heels. Back straight. This is an excellent position for the owner to sit in a chair before him/her for verbal instruction/indoctrination or correction. Voice Command–Instruct Hand Signal–Right hand taps right ear twice
	Wait	WAIT — Standing, hands behind back, left wrist grasped by right wrist; or kneeling, up, knees wide, left wrist grasped by right hand. Kneeling slaves can easily move into a standard or kowtow when required. Eyes should be lowered with chin up, unless slave is waiting for visual signals in which case he/she will keep eyes on Mistress/Master, but respectfully at attention.  WAIT position is required whenever a slave is inactive but waiting on orders. Voice Command–Wait Hand Signal–Elbow slightly bent; hand bent back sharply at wrist
	Slave Sit	Slave Sit–Slave sits with one leg bent in front and one leg bent behind. This is an esthetic position, and easier for women than men.  It demonstrates a slave’s grace and flexibility Voice Command–Slave Sit Hand Signal–None

                                BEGGING, SUBMISSION OR REVERENCE

	Kowtow	KOWTOW — on knees, feet flat and straight behind, arms outstretched forward on the floor, legs together with knees aligned,  hands in front palm down and gracefully crossed. Forehead rests on forearms. Buttocks should be on heels, but this is not always possible as some slaves are just not flexible enough. Formal requests are to be made from this position. Required when commanded.  Voice Command–Down Hand Signal–Two fingers pointed to floor
	Reverence	REVERENCE–drop to the floor, laying upon stomach, face down before the Owner.   The slave turns head and places cheek against the Owner’s feet, kissing them lightly in a gesture of love and submission. Required when commanded.   I always think this is a great opening to asking for something. Voice Command–Reverence Hand Signal–One finger pointed at floor

                                               BOUND POSITIONS

	Cuffs	CUFFS front or back–hands out in front OR behind back, shoulders pushed back, hands touching but not clasped, ready for cuffs to be placed on wrists. This position is used to put on cuffs for chaining the slave. Required when commanded. Voice Command–Cuffs front (or back) Hand Signal–Index finger and thumb of right hand encircling left wrist (front) //Index finger and thumb of left hand encircling right wrist (back)
	Prone	PRONE–on stomach, face down and turned to the left with wrists crossed behind back. slave’s ankles are crossed as well, ready for binding. This position is used for a variety of reasons, sometimes as punishment.  Nice position, but realize if you bind someone’s ankles in this position, they are not going to be able to stand.   Voice Command–Prone Hand Signal–None

                                                PET POSITIONS

	Leash	LEASH– slave, kneeling up, bends neck to the Owner’s hand to be leashed; chin is lifted and head turned to the left, offering collar for leashing. The wrists are behind back, ready to be snapped into slave bracelets. Required when commanded. Variation: from a standing position. slave stands, hands crossed at the small of the back, feet shoulderwidth apart,. back and shoulders slightly arched, head held high and tilted to the left with eyes downcast in respect and submission. Required when commanded. Voice Command–Leash Hand Signal–Fist against side of throat
	Heel	HEEL–stands and moves behind Owner, bending at the waist. slave places hands behind back and puts the side of the head to the Owner’s hip, that She might lead slave easily by the hair or collar while walking. Required when commanded. Voice Command–Heel Hand Signal–Slap thigh on side you wish slave to heel to
	Petsit	PET SIT– Collared slave kneels at side of Owner as he/she holds slave’s leash. One knee is on the floor, leg spread out behind, foot resting with sole up, toes out. Other leg is at chest, head lowered, hands at side for stability. This position works well for Mistress to stop and chat with others while slave demonstrates he/she knows his/her place. Voice Command–Sit Hand Signal–Hand extended down, palm parallel to floor

                                              PUNISHMENT POSITIONS

                                               SEXUAL POSITIONS

                                                             WALKING

Spanking, sex, and endorphins

Endorphins play an important role when dealing with spanking at the harder levels.  Let’s take a quick look at what endorphins are and then we will explore the role they play in spanking.  Endorphins are neurotransmitters found in the brain that have pain relieving properties similar to morphine.  Endorphins interact with opiate receptor neurons in the brain and essentially block pain signals sent to the brain by the nervous system.  While research on the topic is still relatively new, studies are showing that endorphins are very beneficial to our bodies.  Recent studies suggest that, among other things, endorphins enhance the immune system, relieve pain, reduce stress, as well counter some of the effects of the aging process. 

Most of us are most familiar with the production of endorphins as a result of heavy exercise, or as the result of physical pain.  The body produces endorphins at high levels in more situations than just these.  Sexual activity produces endorphins and research shows that over the course of a sexual encounter endorphin levels can increase as much as 200%.  It has been suggested that the euphoric feelings that one experiences after sex are the result of high levels of endorphins running through the body.  There are also foods that are tied with the production of endorphins.  Eating hot chili peppers or chocolate can result in the release of endorphins.  This helps to explain why some people eat chocolate during times of stress and find it to be a comfort food.  While released in smaller amounts than during sex, consuming chocolate can produce enough endorphins to create a euphoric feeling.

Endorphins play an important role in spanking and may further explain why those that are not really into spanking find pleasure in having their bottom smacked during sex.  As illustrated above, the production of endorphins can lead to a euphoric feeling, and a little pain mixed in with sex can go a long way to increase the pleasure.  According to Producers of spanking videos, endorphins play a very important role in what we do.  For the models that we spank that are really into it, being sexually turned on can carry them through the harder scenes we do.  Models that are not into it do not have the benefits of sexual excitement in a scene and it takes endorphins to allow them to carry on past their limits. We are often asked how we are able to find so many young and beautiful models that will take such a hard spanking.  I think one of the main reasons is that we are good at what we do and can guide just about anyone through a very hard scene.  We have learned to use the concept of endorphins to our advantage.  We always start each day slowly and work a model into the harder scenes.  Even a moderate spanking, applied to someone’s bottom who does not like it, will produce endorphins.  When it comes time to do a harder scene, the nervous system is already slightly prepared for what is to come.  In addition, we have learned to recognize when the body steps things up and begins producing endorphins at very high levels.  It takes practice and knowing the person you are spanking, but it is possible to visibly see the signs that let you know that endorphins are kicking in to high gear.  You will often see scenes in which the model struggles hard for the first half, and even though the spanking increases in intensity, she fights the whole process less towards the end.  This is a result of her body finding a way to cope with the pain by producing endorphins.  By recognizing when this happens, we can take a model much farther than she really expected to be able to go.  Endorphins are also responsible for the fact that immediately after an intense spanking, people report that their bottoms do not hurt as much as they expected.  The surprise comes a couple of hours later when they realize that they are very sore, much more so than they expected.  Once the body reduces its level of endorphin production, the true soreness from the spanking is fully realized.

There is still a lot of research to be done in this area, but there is enough of it out there currently to support what I have said.  As a spanker, or a spankee, you can learn to use endorphins to your advantage.  There are many people that have the desire to receive a hard spanking, but find that they can not tolerate anything more than a light spanking.  This is about more than just pain tolerance; it is about being properly guided through a scene that increases in intensity.  Endorphins are the reason that people can take a harder spanking after a warm-up.  I feel confident that I can take anyone into spanking, regardless of their pain tolerance, to a level of intensity that they had no concept that they could achieve.  I have had seen models s that at the beginning, could barely make it through a handspanking, that are now able to take a wooden paddle on their bare ass.  Nothing happened to increase their pain tolerance, we simply got to know them better and as a result were better able to read their body language to see when the harder spanking could begin.  I think many spanking producers short themselves in a big way with model selection.  They hire anyone cute and then just spank the hell out of them.  The ones that survive are hired again, the ones that don’t are sent packing.  They do not take the time to learn how to guide someone to the level of intensity their audience wants to see.  They simply end up with models who can naturally deal with a lot of pain.  If they would learn more about endorphins and use it to their advantage, they would quickly find the size of their model pool increasing by 500%. 

I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest something that I have never seen mentioned before.  First let’s look at some of the current findings in the area of endorphin research.  It has been found that endorphins:

- enhance the immune system
- relieve pain
- reduce stress
- counter some of the effects of the aging process
- increase the release of sexual hormones
- cause a euphoric feeling

Now if there was a pill that could do all of the above things, I am pretty sure that doctors would prescribe it to just about everyone.  You do not need a pill, you already have the prescription (your ass) and you just need to have it filled (a spanking).  If you want to better fight off illness, better deal with pain, reduce the stress of your daily life, look and feel younger, increase your sexual drive, and find a natural high without drugs or alcohol, then spanking is the cure.

Russian scientists at the Novosibirsk Institute of Medicine are claiming a beating on the naked buttocks with a cane is the perfect way to cure everything from depression to alcoholism.
The researchers say caning releases endorphins, the body’s natural ‘happy chemicals’, and that leads to feelings of euphoria, a reduction of appetite, the release of sex hormones and an enhancement of the immune response, and they have a similar effect on pain as drugs such as morphine and codeine, but do not lead to addiction or dependence.

Biologist Dr Sergei Speransky who led the research claims corporal punishment, similar to that doled out regularly in British schools in the last century, helps people overcome addiction and depression. He confirms he is not a sadist even though he recommends caning and says the treatment works. A standard treatment course entails 30 sessions with 60 of the best, delivered on the buttocks by a person of average build.

Dr Marina Chuhrova who also took part in preparing the report said she had 10 patients she caned regularly and though initially “they didn’t like it, when they started to feel the benefits they kept asking for more.”

The Russian team says they are now charging for the caning sessions and are getting over U.S.$ 100 per patient for a standard treatment.

  I propose that a spanking a day will keep the doctor away.  Hmmm, maybe I need to open the first spanking therapy clinic

id you know that in a recent study, only 60% of the women said they enjoy vaginal sex  and only 25% achieve orgasm from traditional penetration? (Masters and Johnson: Human Sexual Response )

Let’s face it, of course your man want to help you reach climax more often, but every time he don’t satisfy you completely, it becomes personal. You feel like less of woman, lose sleep over your performance and maybe you even worry that he may leave you.

In short, it feels bad!

However, after talking to hundreds of women and having studied the science of sex myself, I discovered something very fascinating…

Did you know that…  • While only 25% of women regularly achieve orgasm from traditional vaginal penetration, 81% of women reach orgasm from cunnilingus? • and 88% of married women say cunnilingus is their preferred and most enjoyable sexual act? (Masters and Johnson) Is that an  eye-opening or what?

In the end, these results definitely explain why so many couples have such non fulfilling sex lives. They’re missing out on a major aspect of sex!

Now, just imagine how much more sex you’ll enjoy together when you teach him how to give  you more frequent orgasms. Not to mention, You’ll probably want to return the favor back to him, too.

And ultimately, quality oral sex will help strengthen your relationship and help you get closer to your partner than ever before.

However the problem is that…

Most Men Think That ‘Any Old’
Lick Will Do …WRONG!

This couldn’t be further from the truth! For example:

	Do you know the 8 components of a woman’s genitals and how to specifically stimulate each of them?
	Do you know what order and how long you should lick and caress each one?
	And by using these combination, do you know how to give a woman two different types of orgasms at the same time? (And yes, it is possible!)

Let’s face it, while it just seems like it’s all about “licking” there’s actually much more to it. You need to lick the right places, in the right order, for the right amount of time!

And with over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, you better make sure you know exactly what you’re doing before you poke your tongue down there, otherwise it could be really painful, spoil the mood or even turn her off cunnilingus altogether.

In short, most men have NO IDEA how to please their wives or girlfriends with oral sex. Why? Because no one out there is teaching this stuff properly! So sad!…

But, you just keep reading this blog …. click on cunnilingus on the right and Learn more on this subject by a professional trainer on this subject — Sir. Sexy Cruiser — WHY? Because ladies come to Las Vegas to have sessions with him for only $5oo, and that cheap if a woman has never orgasm before… and want one so bad….

Ladies, Keep reading this blog and make your life better with a better sex life and lifestyle.

        
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A Paddle For Spanking A Man, Made By Himself of Course!

It’s cheap, it works great, and it’s going to leave your man in tears. Start with a Ping-Pong paddle and just follow the pictures above. If this doesn’t put a tear in your mans eye, nothing will!

For added effect remove the rubber covering and have him finish it to a smooth glossy surface.
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F/M Spanking - Controlling The Man During A Real Spanking

Real F/M Spankings, Bare Ass’d And Intense!

Men who take their f/m spankings well are usually characterized by the relative quietness with which they submit to their spankings. Not only do they not struggle nor attempt to block the woman as she spanks their bottom, but they also submit to their spanking without making a lot of noise, apart from the inevitable tears and sobbing that mark the beginning of the release process.

One of the worst forms of male misbehavior during a f/m spanking relates to the amount of noise made by the spanked man. This misbehavior is not related to whether he is crying or not. Some men naturally cry rather loudly, while others sob more quietly.

But some men hide their rebellion, their disrespect and their disobedience behind a hysterical kind of yelling or loud noise that they utter during discipline. They may wait until their tears start to flow before yelling, or their yells may begin long before their sobs. Such men may even think it is a “macho” form of resistance to the woman’s authority to yell when she spanks him. They think that, “She can spank me if she wants, but I am going to pay her back by yelling as if I am being murdered.!”

This yelling is more than just loud crying or sobbing. It is an active attempt on the man’s part to disrupt and undermine the spanking process. It is a form of active rebellion. It is a way for him to demonstrate his disrespect for his tops authority.

Yelling is a way for a man to enlist male help in an emergency situation. If a man is in a state of extreme danger, fright or risk, he will instinctively yell in order to attract potential rescuers to his aid. The piercing nature of a man’s yell will cut through many other types of noise, alerting people nearby that someone is in grave danger.

So when a man starts yelling without genuine reason during his discipline, he is creating a kind of false alarm. He is misusing his natural ability to yell in a loud voice when serious danger threatens him. He is attempting to use his woman’s protective instincts to discourage her from spanking him any further.

A man who yells during his punishment is creating a false sense of emergency. This is selfish, childish and wrong. There is no real emergency. The only thing that is happening is that the man is being spanked to tears for his own good. His woman is not trying to kill him. She is trying to help him - to enable him to have a cathartic emotional experience that will restore him to a more peaceful, loving and harmonious state of mind and heart.

Nonetheless, it is the woman’s responsibility to determine whether a genuine emergency does exist. She loves her man and cares for his welfare, so she will naturally not want him to come to serious harm. She should stop spanking him when he starts to yell. If his yelling stops, it is usually a good indication that his yells were disobedient, disrespectful and dishonest, rather than a sign of a real emergency. If he still keeps yelling, she can ask him what the problem is. If he continues to yell, she can administer a few short, sharp slaps to his bottom and address him in a much sterner tone. This will usually get his attention and return him to a more obedient state. Questioning him about his yelling is usually the fastest way to discover what the real problem is, if indeed there is any problem at all.

If this is the first time that the man has ever yelled during his f/m spanking, he can be warned once about the consequences of yelling when there is no valid emergency situation. Some women will let him off for a first offense, after ensuring that he has been clearly warned of what will happen the next time he yells without justification. It is important that this verbal warning be clearly stated and obviously understood by the man, since he will not be given a second chance.

As many other articles about F/M spankings have already emphasized, crying during discipline is a highly positive outcome for the man. Tears and sobbing are a natural part of the f/m spanking process. They enhance the man’s experience of his f/m spanking, producing a more effective emotional catharsis and enabling the man to achieve full emotional release.