The Sound of Spanking

The hills are alive
With the sound of spanking
And squeals can be heard
For a thousand miles!
The Tops smile real wide
With the sound of spanking
And imps start to sing
As they run away!
The Tops reach and grab
Those imps back as they run
Knickers down over knees they go!
Their mouths want to sigh
But they know it’s pay time
As the heat begins to rise
Tops laugh and they scold
As hand rises and falls
Faster as it goes
Over bums in its way
Erubescent cheeks
Teach an imp
They must learn their way.
Then cuddles abound
And imps lives are happy
You must not know
Promises they say!
Their lives will be blessed
With the threat of spanking
And they’ll cry once more.
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Kinky Karnival
Date: Saturday July 30, 2011
Time: 7pm till 5am.
Place: Power Exchange
3610 S. Highland Dr.
Las Vegas, NV 89103.
Cost: $10 per person (Yes, ladies, you too… but it’s for a good cause)
Special: Free Admission with $100 cash donation (see below for details)
Kinky Karnival 2011 is comming!
Come support a good cause and have a Kinky awesome time! There will be booths and raffles, rent-a-sub and auctions, arrests and spankings, prizes, food and drinks. This year’s event will be held at the Power Exchange. We have secured the entire first floor dungeon area for the event! So cum one cum all… besides… it’s for charity!
Booths:
•Kissing Booth
• Flogging Booth
• Tarot
• Massage
• Dildo Ring Toss
• Cream –a–sub
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How To Make Sex More Fun For Him (10008578)
Based on over thirty years of research and courses taught at major universities, this program is one of the most tasteful, explicit and effective sex education guides ever produced. It demonstrates how you can master, to the delight of your sex partner, the famous ?Venus Butterfly? technique which promises an immediate improvement in your sex life. IF a couple practices this technique for just three minutes each week, it will do more to enhance their relationship than an hour of therapy! Running Time: 50 Minutes.
BDMS: Spanking 102 – Before Care and After Care:
Ladies, if you are going to play in heavy Orgasm Control Play and Corporal Punishment, then this important notice about medical after care for intense sessions such as heavy spanking, heavy flogging or cropping, it is necessary for you to read this.

Is there any before care and after care?
What would you do if you draw blood?
I will cover all of this and more.
Most do the session and go about thier business, but then it occurred to them, is there a chance I am supposed to do something else afterwards? I mean at least 3 spanking session a week, wouldn’t it cause some permanent damage to the tissue? or the skin?
Is this on your mind?
Before Care and After Care:
Lotioning and moisturizing before hand keeps skin supple and more resilient against cracking, dependent upon how deep the wounds run I would think basic first aid, sterilization and antiseptic would work.
First of all, clean the area that you will be working on before you will be doing anything to it, then clean your toys before you use them, and wash your hands properly.
Do not share impact toys unless they are well cleaned, and properly cleaned between partners (or say hello to Mistress Hepatitis, who will not hesitate to make you her bitch). “Properly cleaned” depends on the toy, but as a rule a soft, flexible, or whippy toy of any sort is a one person toy unless it is all rubber and can be autoclaved. Hard, or harder toys with a non-porous surface can be cleaned with anti-virals and anti-bacterials, but these will shorten the usable life of the toy (ie: leather toys can only be cleaned a few times chemically before the leather comes apart). Well sealed wood can be cleaned as can lexan, but fiberglass, plastic and unsealed wood can not.
Clean everything beforehand.
Afterwards, apply ice… always fucking apply ice! A good Top brings a first aid kit, a great Top brings ice.
Ice is used to stop bleeding and bruising, very important.
Apply STERILE dressings to any broken skin, not FUCKING PAPER TOWELS, sterile gauze dressings, 4×4′s and 6×6′s work well. If the area is bleeding beyond the 4×4 size then apply an STERILE abdominal pad after you rinse it with STERILE saline or STERILE water, not tap water (please note the caps in the previous comment). Put plastic over the dressing and apply ice to stop the bleeding. Apply more dressings as needed, but do not remove the initial one.
If the bleeding does not stop in 15 minutes then you have successfully fucked up your partner and it is time to call the EMT’s and put your toys away.
A good Top knows how to call 911, a great Top is a paramedic or doctor and had the local emergency room on speed dial.
Do not draw blood unless you have professional training on how to deal with it. A good spanker has a lexan paddle, a great spanker has a current CPR card or is a RN nurse.

Now if spanked hard with a bathbrush or Frat. paddles and it leaves areas of massive (but superficial) bruises on ones bottom. One should applied arnica cream and take the homeopathic arnica pellets 2-3X/day and the marks are 90% gone 7 days later.
Arnica Creams Are For The Temporary Relief Of Minor Aches And Pains Of Muscles And Joints Associated With Simple Backache, Arthritis, Strains, Bruises And Sprains.Warnings: Use Arnica Creams Only As Directed.
For External Use Only If Condition Worsens, Or If Symptoms Persist For More Than 7 Days Or Clear Up And Occur Again Within A Few Days, Discontinue Use Of This Product And Consult A Physician.
Avoid Contact With Eyes Or Mucous Membranes
Pregnancy – Breast Feeding Warning:
If Pregnant Or Breast Feeding, Ask A Physician Before Use. Do Not Use With Other Topical Products Do Not Use With Heating Devices Do Not Use On Open Wounds, Damaged Or Irritated Skin Keep Away From Excessive Heat Or Open Flame. Keep This And All Medicine Out Of Reach Of Children.
Accidental Ingestion: Seek Professional Help And Contact Poison Control Immediately.Directions: Adults And Children 12 Years And Older
Apply And Gently Massage Painful Joints And/Or Muscles.
Repeat As Needed No More Than 4 Times A Day. Wash Hands After Each Use With Cold Water And Store In Cool Dry Area Close the Cap!!
In heavy BDSM play, a sub-drop can happen more then 72 hour later as the neurotransmitters that flooded the system wear off. This same sub-drop can also happen after some really fucking hard orgasms as well and not just in BDSM play. It is also called a “honeymooners crash” or “vacation crash” as it happens 2-3 days after the marathons, six times a day, hot sex sessions ends.
During after care the providing of full sugared citrus drinks is very wise, or orange juice, Sunny D, GatorAide, or other beverages as the blood sugar crashes often. Use caution of course with a diabetes slave. This fluids should never contain alcohol, and should always be served at room temperature, with no ice in it.
Some really, really salty crackers will also be helpful, such as Ritz crackers or Saltines.
I also lean heavily to some high sugar cookies such as Oreo’s or a Chewy Chocolate Chip. You are seeking cookies that can be easily chewed.
I also carry two tubes of cake frosting, and 4 tunes of Glucose Gell.
A superficial bruise will fade on its own in seven days (if wooden school paddle is properly used), if the bruise is in to the muscles moderately then 7-14 days (lexan paddle, well laid on), and over a month if overly done (lexan paddle used too hard).
If your Mistress is not a RN nurse … I do not recommend play with cane, riding crop or whips.
For example, improper caning or sodomizing can cause bleeding to death or crack pelvic bones, spleen or spinal damage … Dom and Domme not trained … can cause permanent conditions to the torso.
So Masters and Mistresses, please do not get too carry away in your session. if you are caught striking someone it is by legal definition assault, battering and abuse which is clearly define by law.
Any striking of a persons body also falls under the domestic violence clause as consent is not permissible as a defense. According to the law a submissive or anyone else for that matter cannot consent to be battered. There is no provision in the law that allows anyone to consent to be abused.
If you do call 911 remember the police will be taking you in for question and charges such as a legal definition assault, battering and prostitution.
Therefore remember, if a person is caught flogging someone and marks are seen on the person body the police can make an arrest without a complaint by a submissive or anyone else.
So, Please be care, be safe and have fun too.
Urethral Play?
Urethral play is play that involves inserting objects into the urethra, and sometimes the bladder. In some cases, these scenes can be associated with people into medical scenes (playing amateur urologist hour), or in the BDSM scene, is closely associated with control and dominance. For the submissive/bottom, the psychological idea of being violated in such a manner, the inability to control bladder functions (if catheters are inserted into the bladder) along with the physiological sensitivity of the urethral lining can be quite a trip. For most people, the idea of urethral play is repulsive and dangerous, from my experience I find this to be untrue and wish to share some advice, opinions and suggestions.
In urethral play, you generally have two kinds of instruments that you can use. A sound is one type of device that comes in a variety of widths and is inserted into the shaft. Most people who are heavily into the use of sounds usually try to dilate or stretch the urethra, although there are many who get into seeing how far they can go as well. Sounds are sort of like wands usually made out of surgical stainless steel. Catheters are very different. A catheter is inserted into the shaft with the objective of reaching the bladder. Catheters are much longer and are usually made out of latex or plastic. Some types of catheters, like a Foley, have a small balloon that is inflated after it reaches the bladder. Once the catheter is in, the person who has it in pretty much loses control of when they can piss. There are many different type of both sounds and catheters. Many of the sounds are curved to follow the natural shape of the penis, while some of them are straight and forces the urethra to follow the shape.
Guidelines to Safer Play
* Do not use or take drugs that may deaden any sensations. Injecting lydocaine or any other topical anesthetic into the shaft is dangerous and won’t allow you to tell your limits (especially if your goal is to stretch out your urethra).
* Use water-based sterile lube to aid insertion of objects. Do not use lubes that contains nonoxynol-9 or any flavored lubes, both will irritate the urethra. Oil-based lubes are probably not the lube of choice, especially with anything latex, and also is more difficult to expel when you’re done.
* Be sure everything you use is clean and if possible, sterile… this goes more of less for sounds and other items inserted only into the urethra, not the bladder. Never use an unsterilized catheter or anything unsterilized if you plan on getting into the bladder.
* Encourage pissing after you’re done, this will help to clean out residues, dirt and any other small bacteria that may have come in from the outside.
* Even in hospital conditions infection is not uncommon. Should you get an infection, check it out immediately.
* In any BDSM, if you don’t trust the person doing it, don’t do it.
* Never flush or force any liquids into the bladder.
* Be careful not to let go of the sound when it’s inserted, once the sound is inserted more than 4 inches, the sound will usually rotate slightly and pull the rest of the sound down. Should the sound be totally inserted into the urethra and you lose grip, don’t panic and relax – the sound will come out naturally.
* Be aware that urethral play, no matter how carefully done, does irritate the urethra… so if you have any penetrative sex/oral sex afterwards, use a condom. (Actually, you should be using a condom all the time anyways…)
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13 Kinds Of Spankings Every Couple Should Try! Bored with your sex life?
See if these 13 types of spankings don’t make it better.
Every couple needs to change up their sexual routine every now and again so it doesn’t become just that — a routine. Sexual experimentation is key for keeping a long-term relationship fresh, fun and fulfilling. Opening up about your desires can also bring you and your partner closer together. “Experimenting with spanking each other requires a willingness to be vulnerable, which improves intimacy,” says a Vegas Call girl.
Holiday Spankings
If there’s a three-day weekend associated with any holiday, you better believe that couples are getting busy between the sheets. Valentine’s Day, Memorial Day, Fourth of July and especially New Year’s Eve see a spike in sexual activity and conception in the United States, according to biorhythm researchers. No wonder. Who doesn’t want to start the New Year off with a spanking, right?
Make-Up Spanking
A passionate argument can lead to some just-as-passionate harsh action between the discipliner. Fighting causes dopamine and adrenaline levels to rise, making you and your partner excitable in more ways than one. Every couple faces occasional conflict, and spanking after a disagreement can be a great way to get your relationship back on track. “When you’re upset with each other, you need to be able to get over it and move on,” says Mistress of the Night. “Spanking changes the momentum after an argument.”
Vacation Spankings
The two of you may be tucked away in a private room, but the deed can still feel thrillingly public. And those crisp, clean sheets are just begging to be rumpled. Best of all, a vacation can be a great opportunity to re-connect with your partner sexually with a spanking. “One of the benefits of a vacation should be to renew your sexual intimacy by a erotic spanking” ,”Sir. Sexy Cruiser says. If you usually plan every minute of a trip, make sure you schedule time for spankings sessions. For example, plan to spanking at the hotel until mid-morning or to come right back to your room after dinner for a relaxing night together.
Animalistic Spanking
A sense of urgency can turn up the heat in a major way. Being aggressive can be fun and unexpected — romance with a twist. After all, it’s an element of mystery that defines romance. “It’s when you don’t quite know what to expect,” Slavette says. So if you’re in the mood, ripping each other’s clothes off and spanking for foreplay could be an exciting change of pace.
Comfort Sex
Like turkey and sweet potatoes, sometimes you just need something that’s simple, familiar and satisfying. It’s one way to provide love and support when you or your partner has had a rough day or is feeling down. This is when it might be time to use your favorite stand-up spanking position, one that you and your partner always enjoy. “When it comes to the climax, sometimes it needs to be in a certain way, and that’s OTK,” says Sir. Sexy Cruiser
Hope-We-Don’t-Get-Caught Spankings
If you’re at a boring party or family gathering, add a little spice to the evening by sneaking away to the spare bedroom. The possibility of getting caught adds a new level of excitement to your spankings and can even give you a reason to look forward to spending the holidays with the in-laws.
Fulfill-Your-Fantasy Spanking
Everyone has spanking fantasies, and as long as both you and your partner feel comfortable acting them out, there’s no reason you shouldn’t try them. “We should be pursuing each other’s fantasies, assuming they’re appropriate,” says Mistress Kitty. For example, if your partner has always dreamed of doing the spanking on a boat, why not rent one and spend a romantic night of spanking at sea? All aboard!
Quickie Spank
If you’re pressed for time, don’t write off a spanking just yet — this is when “the quickie” comes in handy. Just make sure it’s something both parties want; an unfulfilling experience for either one of you can foster resentment and, over time, weaken the relationship. When someone says yes to a spank when she really means no, “she’s not doing him a favor; she’s making a mistake,” Sir. Sexy Cruiser says. “It will turn her off to him sexually long-term spank, whip or paddling.”
Romantic, Sensual Spankings
Taking the time to savor spankings without rushing through it can be luxurious and fulfilling on many levels. Connecting with your partner by taking it slow means you get to enjoy every moment of being together and lets you take advantage of the emotional connection that makes sex better. Whether it takes candles, music or some bubbly, building the mood can provide a major boost between the spankings.
All-Over-the-House Spankings
Switching up your spanking location can be a great way to inject some spontaneity into a relationship, which in turn can make your partner feel even more desirable. “Spontaneity is beautiful. It’s fun and exciting,” says Spanky. “Too often people get into a routine where they have spankings at the same time, at the same place.” If you and your partner are doing the laundry together, for example, pulling him or her close for a quick rendezvous spanking can be surprising and refreshing. It’s good, clean fun — no detergent spanking required!
Outdoor Spankings
You tell your kids to go play outside — now it’s time to practice what you preach! Bringing your sexual escapades outside can be fun and invigorating. If you’re camping in a tent or live on a large piece of property, those can be great opportunities to try something new – a spanking or two. But to avoid legal problems, it’s best to keep your shenanigans private. “The caution is to make sure you’re somewhere where you could not be in the public eye,” Shanky says. So venture outside to learn more about the birds and the bees or what strings or not.
Spanking Position of the Week
Trying out a new position offers the chance to learn more about what brings your partner pleasure. Some spanking positions work better than others for helping a woman orgasm, and experimenting with new ones can give you a better feel for what works — and what doesn’t. Mixing it up keeps spankings fresh and prevents it from becoming routine, Sir. Sexy Cruiser says. That makes it more likely you and your partner will keep spanking it — literally.
Marathon Spanking
Come rain, snow, sleet or hail, when the weather gets frightful this winter there’s no better excuse to spend an entire day in bed. Think of it as a Spank Olympics. Work together for a common goal,or spanking bet on winner a event,maybe, like breaking your record for how many times you can do the horizontal spanks in a row. When your sexual energy is finally slapped out, you’ll both be exhausted and satisfied.
Could You Be Allergic to Sex?

For two years, a 26-year-old woman suffered burning and swelling in and near her vagina for 15 minutes after making love. But she and her mate were puzzled because the symptoms went away if they used a condom. She finally went to her doctor, and what she learned there was startling. She is allergic to sex.
In another case, a 30-year-old women went to her doctor because she was having painful burning and tingling in and around her vagina immediately after intercourse. The symptoms then lasted for about six hours. Moreover, several love-making sessions caused her face to swell. But, the woman told her doctor there were no symptoms at all when her man used a condom.
How Can This Be?
Researchers have found that some women are allergic to their male partner’s seminal fluid, the thick liquid that carries sperm. Doctors know the disorder as “human seminal plasma hypersensitivity.” But there is good news. The condition can usually be treated by allergists although it takes some effort by concerned, caring male partners.
What Are the Symptoms?
Most sufferers complain of symptoms that include vaginal itching, burning, and swelling in the genital area after sex. Some women even report blisters in and near their genitalia. Wheezing, hives all over, chest tightness, vomiting, or diarrhea are other possible symptoms. Severe reactions can include loss of consciousness or complete circulatory collapse.
Both that patient and the 26-year-old woman saw an allergist. Through a skin reactivity test, they discovered they were indeed allergic to their mate’s seminal fluid. Researchers have not yet identified the troublesome culprit, but they think that certain proteins in the seminal fluid cause the reaction.
How Is a Sex Allergy Treated?
Once the hypersensitivity is diagnosed, partners are called on to do more than just use a condom. Treatment involves injecting the women regularly with their partner’s purified seminal proteins.
For the initial diagnostic screening, only a single sample of the male’s ejaculate is needed. But then the allergist needs 5-7 days worth of ejaculate to have the volume to formulate enough vaccine for regular injections.
One of the couples went through all the trouble of having the puzzling, painful symptoms diagnosed as sexual allergy. They then worked out a treatment plan, only to discover yet another dimension of human seminal plasma hypersensitivity.
Says Dr. Jonathan Bernstein at the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine, “When we start giving the woman injections, and she and her partner stop having sex, she can lose her tolerance to his seminal plasma.” In other words, couples must continue to have regular intercourse or the bothersome symptoms will return.
This created some logistic difficulties for the 26-year-old woman. Her mate was an airline pilot who was out of town frequently, so she was at a loss as to how they would continue their “treatments.”
Dr. Jonathan Bernstein to the rescue. “We tell our patients that if they must be apart for some weeks, the male can leave several samples of ejaculate and the woman can then inject a small amount into the vagina. That will keeps the woman’s tolerance up.”
Please be aware that this information is provided to supplement the care provided by your physician. It is neither intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. CALL YOUR HEALTHCARE PROVIDER IMMEDIATELY IF YOU THINK YOU MAY HAVE A MEDICAL EMERGENCY. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider prior to starting any new treatment or with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.
For UPMC Mercy Patients:
As a Catholic hospital, UPMC Mercy abides by the Ethical and Religious Directives for Catholic Health Care Services, as determined by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops. As such, UPMC Mercy neither endorses nor provides medical practices and/or procedures that contradict the moral teachings of the Roman Catholic Church.
Ladies I Can Help–So You Want to Penetrate your Boy…
So you want to penetrate your boy,
boyfriend, husband or a cute casual stranger?
Why wouldn’t you? You can bring your male friend to heights of pleasure he may never reach with just penis stimulation alone. You get to see him be vulnerable and receptive. You get to enjoy penetrating your partner in a way that’s usually reserved for the guys. You also get the satisfaction of feeling smug, knowing that you’re the one who made him cum like he’s never cum before. That’s never a bad thing, right?
So how to start? Start slowly. Use more lube than you think you should need. Usually a gloved finger is the best beginner’s tool. If you’ve ever had anal penetration yourself, you know how much the first penetration can hurt. So take the time to start small and work him slowly open. The glove is great because while it’s best for safer sex, it also smoothes out all those rough hangnails and fingernails that can feel like glass shards to his sensitive anus.
Work around the outside first, getting him used to the sensation. Press lightly on his anus until you feel it start to give. But go SO slowly. Let him beg you for it too. The more he works it up in his head to be the best thing ever, the more open and relaxed he’ll be. If he’s begging you, imagining how amazing it’s going to feel, his body will automatically cooperate to help it happen.
Some men enjoy it if you massage around the inside, some men like a straight in and out motion. This is not the time to be shy about talking during sex. You want to find out what gives him the most pleasure here.
The rectum and anus are so rich with nerve endings that it can truly be mind-blowing if done consciously. See if you can find the walnut-sized prostate located at the internal base of his penis. Some men can cum just from having this stimulated, without any attention being paid to his penis at all!
Once you’ve explored and become comfortable with using your fingers, you may want to consider some toys. I’ll give a few recommendations . Again, you’ll want to start slow here.
A great way to start is with a simple butt plug. It should have a flared base, so you can be sure not to lose it. It can also be held inside during sex so that he can experience the joys of penetrating while being penetrated. It’s also great for longer-term play. Imagine having him wear his plug when you go out to dinner or in preparation for when you come home. There are several materials to choose from. I recommend something in silicone or glass, because they’re a little more rigid (and therefore easier to insert into a tight anus ass), and they’re easy to sterilize by boiling or tossing into the dishwasher. Silicone is best for long term wear, as it has a bit more give, and he can wear it while sitting.
Next, you may find that you would like to try dildos and vibes. Go for something thin and long to start with, as you can adjust the depth to find out what he enjoys most, but the thickness can’t be changed. After some practice, you’ll find that your boy has a preference for length or width, pumping or just insertion, and smooth or textured. Again, pay attention to his signals, both verbal and physical, and you’ll be able to find out what really turns him on!
It’s easiest to start with a hand-held dildo or vibe, because you can learn how to adjust your angle, pressure, and motion to hit all the right spots.
Once you’ve spent some time exploring the nuances of anal play with your boy, you may want to consider strapping on!
Strap-on play takes your anal explorations to that next level.
There’s a lot more going on psychologically here. For the Top, there’s the feeling of being in control, opening up and exploring the bottom. The Top usually controls the rhythm, angle, and intensity. For the bottom, there’s a sense of true vulnerability. They get to feel what it’s like to be the receptive, passive partner.
This is a great place to bring in any D/S play, which can help to set the mood. Positioning also becomes more of a concern, and this is a great way for women to find out what back-breaking work it is to fuck your partner well! Men also get to see why having your ankles behind your ears may look sexy on videos, but isn’t at all comfortable for real-life play.
Once you’ve mastered the art of using the butt plug, dildo, and vibrator, you may want to try more intense forms of anal play. Things like extreme-sized toys, fisting, and enema play can all be introduced once you’ve gotten the basics down. (Enemas are something good for your fella to learn about on his own before any good anal play session, as cleanliness can help solve the ick reaction and reduce the risk of mess.) As with all other forms of anal play, the best policy here is just to ease into anything. Your guy may be fine never getting past the finger stage, or he may be begging for your whole hand sooner than you thought possible!
Well Ladies, you ask me for another “How to Spank?” posting again …So,if you don’t like my 1st Spanking lesson here is one you will like …Its just the facts on “How To Spank!”
How To Spank?
Spanking is a much more personal and intimate than other forms of discipline. There is nothing quite like the feel of your boy bent over your knee, bare ass arched upwards, quivering with a combination of fear and anticipation. For the bottom, too, it provides a very unique feeling – both physically and mentally.
Spanking evokes memories of corporal punishment many of us experience in childhood. For this reason, many spankees look for tops who fit the roles of Daddy, Mommy, coach, a big brother, Aunt or other authority figures.
Position & Posture
One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of discipline is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, many prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning.
Both the spankee and spanker adopt positions that facilitate and enhance the spanking. These positions generally work to the advantage of the spanker and the disadvantage of the spankee.
The spanker enjoys the following advantages from their position:
Comfort
Whether standing or sitting, the spanker is positioned to be comfortable throughout the spanking. They are able to swing their arm at a natural angle and able to sustain a lengthy spanking with ease because of their position.
Strength
Because they are able to wind up and freely swing their arm at a natural angle, the spanker is able to apply swats to the intended target with force. While standing, the spanker cannot only swing their arm but rotate their body to deliver maximum energy to an anxiously awaiting, clenching derriere.
Full Access
The spankee’s position is designed to fully expose their bottom and the spanker’s relative position is designed to put that bottom at a convenient angle and height. Therefore, the spanker is able to view, tweak, pat and spank it.
Safety
Because the spanker is in the position to easily spank the rear-end at the correct angle, it is much less likely that a blow will fall too high or too low.
Control
The spanker’s position gives them the “upper hand” and allows them to easily control the spankee. They sit or stand higher than the spankee and are easily able to restrain and situate the spankee.
The spankee realizes the following effects from their position:
Relative comfort
Except for the notable exception of their backside, Many think it’s important that the spankee be relatively comfortable so they can focus on the sensations being inflicted upon their posterior.
Anticipation
Bending over and getting into position to get your bottom blistered signals the beginning of the spanking and builds anticipation.
Increased sensation
A properly positioned bottom will tend to be spanked harder and more completely on the sensitive “sit spot.”
Humiliation
Being put over the knee is a childish, humiliating posture. Having to “assume the position” is humiliating in its submission and rubs in the fact that they are being spanked.
Exposure
A properly positioned bottom is fully exposed. The cheeks are fully presented and split, their undersides turned up. In the case of men, the anus and back of scrotum show. Women are even more exposed, their rectums and vulvas fully visible.
Emphasis on their bottom
Spanking positions place the center of attention on the bottom of the person being spanked, a fact not lost on said person. The bottom is emphasized by its exposure and upturned position relative to the spanker.
Presentation of their bottom
Not only is the bottom exposed and emphasized but the spankee feels they are willingly “sticking it out” and presenting it for its punishment in the same way that the condemned man must place his head on the chopping block. The spankee knows their bottom cannot evade or escape the swats.
Submission
Cooperatively getting into position to be spanked is the primary act of submission in spanking.
Safety
Although it may be of little solace, the spankee can take comfort in the fact that their position affords safety from injury. Of course, this can be disconcerting if they know they will be spanked with even more abandon.
Loss of control
Once positioned, the spankee has relinquished control and may not easily regain it until the spanking is done. They may have difficulty removing their rear from the line of fire if they try.
Inability to clench
When standing, one can clench their cheeks together, mitigating the sting of a swat and the exposure. When properly positioned, it is more difficult to clench cheeks and the spanking will be applied to a relaxed, bouncing bottom.
Excellent visual presentation
Speaking from the point of view of an admitted bottom fancier, there are few times that someone looks more adorable and beautiful than when he or she is positioned to be spanked. Not only is the bottom emphasized, but it is formed to a flattering shape and sexily perked out. Spanking positions would be sexy even to people not into spanking.
Specific Positions
Following are descriptions of various positions that many find erotic, their distinguishing characteristics, tactics that can be used to enhance them, and precautions to take. All descriptions assume a right-handed spanker.
Over the lap
The spanker sits with good posture in an armless chair, knees together. The person being spanked must lay face down across the spanker’s lap, with their head to the left and their feet to the right. They must be over the lap far enough so their bottom is conveniently located directly over the spanker’s right thigh. In order to preserve modesty, the person being spanked may be tempted to lie flat with their head up and legs straight out behind; however, if they are concerned for their modesty, they shouldn’t have gotten themselves spanked in the first place. The spankee’s head and shoulders should be angled down and their knees tucked down out of the way so that their bottom is well turned up. A palm pressed against the back of the head and swats to the thighs are helpful in positioning the spankee.
Knees should be at least six inches apart and the lower back should be “arched” or dipped to further turn up their rear. For a woman, this will result in her vulva being fully exposed and presented. Depending on size, toes will either be resting against the floor or hoisted off a few inches. The full weight of the spankee should be resting on the lap.
Hands can either be on the floor or grasping the legs of the chair. If the right hand flies back during spanking, it should be pinned to the lower back by the spanker’s left hand.
Prior to starting to spank, the spanker should firmly grasp the spankee’s waist above the right hip with the left hand to prevent squirming off the lap. Then the left elbow should be planted between the shoulder blades to keep the head and shoulders from bobbing up. The spanker should raise their right knee slightly, turning up the bottom further. In the case of a woman or man spanking a boy, she should make sure his penis is pressed firmly against her right thigh and aimed to the left.
By turning their upper body to the right, the spanker can get a fuller swing and more comfortably apply a stronger swat. By combining all of these tactics – the raised knee, the elbow in the back, the hand in the small of the back – the spanker can effectively pin the spankee down and spank the daylights out of them.
Over the knee
Similar to over-the-lap except the spankee is bent over the left knee with their legs restrained by the spanker’s right leg.
Hands on ankles
This is the classic school-style paddling position. The student must stand well clear of obstacles with feet shoulder width apart. Leaving knees straight and back straight, the student must bend over and grasp their ankles with both hands. The spanker may want to observe the student’s hands throughout the paddling to ensure they do not leave the ankles and earn extra swats.
The spanker stands facing the left side of the student. They should stand far enough away so the paddle barely overlaps past the right cheek. They should adjust fore and aft to ensure that both cheeks are struck at the same time (assuming a paddle is being used. Canes and straps warrant slightly forward positioning). It is not possible to more fully expose and present a rear end than when in this position. When one is told to bend over and grab their ankles, one is, in effect, being told, “we intend to thoroughly paddle your bottom. So not only will you present your rear-end but you will stretch and endeavor to stick it up and out as far as you absolutely positively can. And throughout the paddling, you will continue to strain to stick it out for the paddle.”
Since the angle between the legs and the upper body is well under 90 degrees, this position spreads the cheeks and exposes the rectum and genitals more than any other position. This is a great fantasy position, but manyI think it only works safely in reality for spankees with flexible bodies (especially when a thick paddle is used). Inflexible people can’t reach their ankles without bending their knees. Men run the risk of getting their testicles whacked. Non-fleshy butts get pulled tightly across the pelvic bones and don’t provide enough padding when a heavy paddle is used.
Hands on knees
is a safer, more workable position than hands-on-ankles. The bottom is presented in a plumper, more paddle-friendly shape but visually, the position is still very school-like. Depending on the person, I think this position can be more visually appealing because the back can be arched a bit which perks up the bottom. In fact, the further up the legs the hands are placed, the more the spankee can arch their back and stick out their rump. Again, feet should be shoulder width apart and hand positioning enforced. Because the back can be arched and bottom upturned, it should be required, both prior and during the paddling. A technique which tends to arch the back correctly is to require the student to look forward at a spot high on the wall. That way, they are required to pull their head up and arch their back.
Over the desk on tiptoes
Another school-like position. The student must bend over a desk with nose or chest pressed to the desk. Hands and arms should be placed on the desk over their head to further arch the back. To further elevate their bottoms to be spanked, they must raise up onto their toes. Penalty swats can be awarded for every incidence of a heel touching the floor (hint: watch after the “last” swat before the student is told they may relax).
Over a barstool or horse
This is probably the best position for paddling because the bottom is presented in a plump and relaxed manner. The person to be punished must lay their full weight across the stool, their feet hanging and hands grasping the legs of the stool at a level such that there is a little support for their upper body. This is a relaxed, comfortable position which works well for lengthy spankings.
Laying on bed
Another comfortable position for lengthy spankings and ensuing diversions. The spankee must lay face-down on a bed. Their face should be pressed to the mattress while their hips and bottom are elevated on pillows. Since pillows are compressible, it may take three or four to achieve the proper elevation.
Kneeling in chair
This is a favorite positions for spankees with great butts because, properly executed, it presents the rear in its most flattering light. The trick is in the execution. The spankee must kneel in the seat of a padded chair (save those knees for later) facing the back with the thighs vertical and upper body forward over the back. Again, the spankee should be required to arch the back well. Two things conspire to shape his or her bottom. First, the back of the chair prevents him or her from bending so far as to preclude a good back arch. Second, just as high heels shape calves fully by angling the foot to shorten and bulge the calf muscle, kneeling with the calves at right angles to the thighs seems to allow the buttocks to bulge fully.
Adjustment & readjustment
Most people think it’s important to deliberately position and adjust the spankee prior to the first swat. Emphasis should be placed on positioning and presenting the bottom fully. Throughout the spanking, the spankee should be readjusted as their position begins to fail.
Verbal instruction
Many folks think it’s best to require the spankee to willfully maintain their own position without the physical assistance of the spanker, especially in the case of stand-up paddlings. Therefore, verbal communication is necessary throughout the spanking to encourage the spankee to continue to assume the correct position.
Pickiness
One of the disciplinary aspects of spanking is that no matter how perfect the spankee is positioned, they can always improve, stick their bottom out a little further, etc. The spanker should not feel guilty that their exacting demands regarding position are perhaps a little too picky and unrealistic.
She Chooses Anal Sex (ANAL for Beginners)
They’re the three little words millions of lonely hearts long to hear. Words that imply a great deal of mutual trust, caring, and comfort. Words that could change your love life forever …
You ladies saying, “Let’s do anal.”
Experts estimate one in four straight couples have had anal sex, arguably making it the most popular of sexual taboos. Yet while many people are at the very least curious enough to try it, few go about it the right way. The result? They have a negative experience, and never do it again.
In order to enjoy anal sex, couples need to have some idea of what they’re doing, and to be able to communicate with each other. Of course, talking frankly about a ding-dong in a yoo-hoo can be tough. “Our asses carry with them so much cultural baggage,” says Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women. “Most of us are taught at a young age that our butts are dirty, that they shouldn’t be shared with others, that they are not a source of pleasure—all of which aren’t true.”
Despite that (or perhaps because of it), the idea of anal sex is often a turn-on. Men like the promise of tightness and friction, and both partners can appreciate the allure of unique physical sensations coupled with domination/submission. Think those qualities make it deviant?
Maybe so, but they also make it intensely intimate. As porn star Jenna Jameson wrote of anal sex in her 2004 autobiography, “I’ve only given that up to three men, all of whom I really loved. Doing it on camera would be compromising myself.”
There’s no “right” way to begin exploring, but it’s probably wise to start with something less ambitious than a penis. Richard and Lola* had been together for four months when he put his hand on her butt during sex. “I realized I really wanted to put my finger in her ass, but I was hesitant because we’d never done that before,” says Richard, a 34-year-old physicist in San Francisco. “Without a word, she grabbed my hand and put it there for me. It was amazing.”
Later, in the middle of particularly intense sex, an overzealous Richard aimed himself a bit too far south. He realized his mistake and pulled away, but Lola pulled him back. They proceeded to have first-time, undiscussed anal sex without lube—and loved it.
“I’ve since discovered that’s not a good way to do it,” says Lola, 32, a lawyer. “But that night I had the most powerful orgasm of my life. It’s one of the hottest things you can do, but you definitely have to be in the mood. Someone can’t just spring it on you.”
Outside of MTV shows and comedies, most people aren’t eager to talk about their butts—especially with their partners. But it doesn’t need to be a face-reddening experience. “If you and your partner speak openly and directly about sex, then be open and direct about your anal desires,” Taormino says. “If you’re unsure about how your partner may respond, bring it up in an indirect way.”
When you decide to try it out, go very slowly. Most couples agree that anal sex only works when both people are very turned on, so spend time building up to it doing whatever gets you going—oral sex, vaginal sex, watching old episodes of Hart to Hart. And remember what Mother told you: Anything you stick up a butt should be generously coated with a heavy water-based lube like Astroglide Gel or Maximus.
That can’t be stressed enough. Unlike the vagina and much like the internal combustion engine, the anus is not self-lubricating. Insufficiently lubed, you’re susceptible to tiny internal tears, which can cause pain and infection, and encourage the spread of STDs. But that doesn’t mean anal sex is inherently more dangerous. As long as you use a condom and there’s enough lube, you’ll be reasonably safe. To avoid nasty bacterial infections, remember that it’s like stroking a porcupine: You can go front to back, but never back to front.
Sex toys can augment the experience. Nonporous, easy-to-clean silicone is the best material for butt plugs, vibrators, or dildos; a flared base will prevent an awkward trip to the ER for, uh, extraction. “We started with a small butt plug we got online,” says Heather, a 38-year-old New York City nonprofit executive who convinced her husband—yes, he was the wary one—to try anal. “Then we moved on to sex, and it was totally unique. I have to do it in a place where no one else is around because I’m worried about people hearing me—I’m always a lot louder.”
No single position is ideal, but the receiver should be in control. Missionary works; woman-on-top lets her control the depth of penetration; and spooning allows the man a perfect angle. Doggie-style provides great G-spot stimulation, with the woman either on all fours or with her head on the bed and butt in the air (yogis call it “Foraging Anteater Pose”). To make sure the man doesn’t thrust too deep, he should enter, stop, and wait for her to get used to the feeling.
Or is it the other way around?
“The ass is the most democratic orifice—we all have one,” Taormino begins ominously. “What lots of men don’t realize is just how good it can feel for them, because the prostate gland can be directly stimulated. In fact, every man should get sodomized in the ass at least once before he dies.”
Maybe this isn’t an idea everyone is totally comfortable with, but turnabout is fair anal play.
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Dominant (BDSM)
In human sexual behavior, a dominant is one who enjoys performing any of a variety of BDSM practices upon a submissive; or one who holds a dominant position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (DS). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for dominance or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A male dominant is often called a dom; a female, a domme or dominatrix.
The main difference between a dominant and a top is that the dominant ostensibly does not follow instructions, although s/he is limited by what the submissive is willing to do.
There are some indications that preference in DS activities follows a ‘compensatory’ pattern, with people who have much power and responsibility in real life often preferring a submissive role; no hard scientific data to either confirm or reject this hypothesis seem to exist, however.
There are also indications that submissives substantially outnumber dominants, in both males and females. Professional dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for those unable to find a compatible partner for this activity.
Submissive (BDSM)
In human sexual behavior, a submissive is one who enjoys having any of a variety of BDSM practices performed upon them by a “Dominant”; or one who holds a submissive position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (Ds or D/s). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for submission or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A submissive is also referred to as a ‘sub’, where the dominant in a D/s relationship is the ‘Dom.’
The main difference between a submissive and a bottom is that the submissive ostensibly does not give instructions, although s/he does set limits on what the Dominant can do.
There are also indications that submissives substantially outnumber Dominants[citation needed], in both males and females. Professional Dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for those unable to find a compatible partner for this activity.
In many BDSM communities, there is a distinction between a submissive and a slave. In this context, a slave’s goal is surrender and obedience. In contrast, a submissive tends to expect some gratification in return for his or her submission.
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